DaoistCapybara

I would say it is very common in asia… as a south asian… we get hit on a very regular basis over the smallest things…

Even when you become adults?

yess

That's why belts, flip flops and rulers are memes here. Golf club, ashtray, vases etc for kinda hardcore discipline hahahahahha

Why don't hit them back?

oml wdym hit them back ?? we need to respect our elder and it’s not like they hit us for fun , it’s to educate us

It's disrespectful to hit back and even talk back to your parents. We are taught to always respect the elders, especially our parents. For them, it's for discipline. But yeah, it gets to a point. Respect should be given both ways.

I'm an educator myself working with children and I think if ever there comes a day in my life when I lose my mind and raise a hand against others doesn't matter an adult or a child I deserve to be hit back. Wdym respect someone who doesn't respect you????? Raise up against evil elder bitches!!!!

The thing is it’s embedded on us Asians that we must respect our elders, and that getting hit is something that would result if we did something wrong or didn’t meet the standards of our elders.
Even if those elders are at wrong most of the time you just gotta hold it in to not be told ungrateful or disrespectful

But sometimes or more often times, if something like that happens too much, it becomes downright abuse and I bet Taeyoung here did not grow up in a household where the hits were all about discipline.

You know deep down we just can’t… we are always taught that you are what you are today because of your parents… they are your gods… so we are so thoroughly brainwashed with that idea that no matter what they will do even talking back would put us in so much guilt that we would regret it afterwards even if we were right…
And also we would be considered toxic selfish bish if we hit the hands that raised us and feed us and did sacrifices for us…

Yea like they always told “I raised u & u did that !?” so we have nothing left to say back & just get it over with that. If we argue back,there’s no end cuz they be telling how I should behave blah blah blah for all day,all week so just get it over with beatings just faster to end that.

I don't wanna sound patronising, so Iwon't say anything. Just be happy and don't let anyone hit you. You all are beautiful humans deserving respect and dignity and if anyone thinks or says otherwise can f themselves. Doesn't matter who they are.

are you white?? lol

I'm not sure I count as white for Hwhites, but officially yeah

Corporal punishment is very much the norm here, as well at its been deeply ingrained in us how we must respect elders and be thankful to the life they gave us, that combination creates a cycle where hitting children is normalized and justified as "I got hit and I turned out fine" type of people. It has also been scientifically proven that corporal punishment does not work at all.

So talk to your kids when your giving them punishment people, so they understand what they did wrong and what the punishment is about so they truly understand why the punishment is happening.

I seriously hate the notion that you must ALWAYS respect your elders even when they are blatantly disrespectful or even abusive toward you. I also hate that physical discipline is so normalized in Asian countries. You are so right about respecting someone who does not respect you. Ofc respect is expected, but the moment they give you a reason to not respect them anymore that’s that.

parents hitting their adult kids like depicted to taeyoung is not a custom(atleast in east Asia, that’s just abuse call the police) Getting hit over the smallest things is also not normal at all esp when ur an adult. But corporal punishment on kids seems to be very common based on ur replies (though based on my anecdotal experience it’s very frowned upon in more modernized regions/societies, esp with the recent rise of gentle parenting+social media scrutiny).

Also ur replies r so sad, just getting hit left and right.. its 2026 unless u rely on ur parents to survive who tf actively takes this disrespect just bc it’s “culture” but sadly so many ppl r just brainwashed into thinking retaliating is evil. Just letting these old people who rely on their kids for retirement reign evil over them everyday. Filial piety never meant blind submission maybe these parents should actually read the analects before spouting that bullshit

To be fair, the newer parents I've seen dont believe in corporal punishments. It's the desire that the generational trauma ends with this generation because we now know that these practices only raises a child detached from parents, if not rebellious. Though I wish, earlier parents realized this sooner, but I've heard our grandparents did worse so that's the only way they know how to discipline. Also, there are now laws that protects children against violence in my country, so that helps, too.

Boomers were like that. Newer gen parents are much better in that area now. Can't really deny that it wasn't abuse, it's just it was pretty recurring as someone born in 90s lmao thought it was normal. I had a couple of teachers in my kinder and elementary days who did those to us before. Experienced multiple times ngl when i didn't give an f when few of them passrf away