Genuinely asking: I'm not very familiar with Korean customs. Is it common that parents hit their adult children?
I would say it is very common in asia… as a south asian… we get hit on a very regular basis over the smallest things…
Even when you become adults?
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That's why belts, flip flops and rulers are memes here. Golf club, ashtray, vases etc for kinda hardcore discipline hahahahahha
Why don't hit them back?
oml wdym hit them back ?? we need to respect our elder and it’s not like they hit us for fun , it’s to educate us
It's disrespectful to hit back and even talk back to your parents. We are taught to always respect the elders, especially our parents. For them, it's for discipline. But yeah, it gets to a point. Respect should be given both ways.
I'm an educator myself working with children and I think if ever there comes a day in my life when I lose my mind and raise a hand against others doesn't matter an adult or a child I deserve to be hit back. Wdym respect someone who doesn't respect you????? Raise up against evil elder bitches!!!!
The thing is it’s embedded on us Asians that we must respect our elders, and that getting hit is something that would result if we did something wrong or didn’t meet the standards of our elders.
Even if those elders are at wrong most of the time you just gotta hold it in to not be told ungrateful or disrespectful
But sometimes or more often times, if something like that happens too much, it becomes downright abuse and I bet Taeyoung here did not grow up in a household where the hits were all about discipline.
You know deep down we just can’t… we are always taught that you are what you are today because of your parents… they are your gods… so we are so thoroughly brainwashed with that idea that no matter what they will do even talking back would put us in so much guilt that we would regret it afterwards even if we were right…
And also we would be considered toxic selfish bish if we hit the hands that raised us and feed us and did sacrifices for us…
Yea like they always told “I raised u & u did that !?” so we have nothing left to say back & just get it over with that. If we argue back,there’s no end cuz they be telling how I should behave blah blah blah for all day,all week so just get it over with beatings just faster to end that.
I don't wanna sound patronising, so Iwon't say anything. Just be happy and don't let anyone hit you. You all are beautiful humans deserving respect and dignity and if anyone thinks or says otherwise can f themselves. Doesn't matter who they are.
are you white?? lol
I'm not sure I count as white for Hwhites, but officially yeah
Corporal punishment is very much the norm here, as well at its been deeply ingrained in us how we must respect elders and be thankful to the life they gave us, that combination creates a cycle where hitting children is normalized and justified as "I got hit and I turned out fine" type of people. It has also been scientifically proven that corporal punishment does not work at all.
So talk to your kids when your giving them punishment people, so they understand what they did wrong and what the punishment is about so they truly understand why the punishment is happening.
I seriously hate the notion that you must ALWAYS respect your elders even when they are blatantly disrespectful or even abusive toward you. I also hate that physical discipline is so normalized in Asian countries. You are so right about respecting someone who does not respect you. Ofc respect is expected, but the moment they give you a reason to not respect them anymore that’s that.
parents hitting their adult kids like depicted to taeyoung is not a custom(atleast in east Asia, that’s just abuse call the police) Getting hit over the smallest things is also not normal at all esp when ur an adult. But corporal punishment on kids seems to be very common based on ur replies (though based on my anecdotal experience it’s very frowned upon in more modernized regions/societies, esp with the recent rise of gentle parenting+social media scrutiny).
Also ur replies r so sad, just getting hit left and right.. its 2026 unless u rely on ur parents to survive who tf actively takes this disrespect just bc it’s “culture” but sadly so many ppl r just brainwashed into thinking retaliating is evil. Just letting these old people who rely on their kids for retirement reign evil over them everyday. Filial piety never meant blind submission maybe these parents should actually read the analects before spouting that bullshit
To be fair, the newer parents I've seen dont believe in corporal punishments. It's the desire that the generational trauma ends with this generation because we now know that these practices only raises a child detached from parents, if not rebellious. Though I wish, earlier parents realized this sooner, but I've heard our grandparents did worse so that's the only way they know how to discipline. Also, there are now laws that protects children against violence in my country, so that helps, too.
Boomers were like that. Newer gen parents are much better in that area now. Can't really deny that it wasn't abuse, it's just it was pretty recurring as someone born in 90s lmao thought it was normal. I had a couple of teachers in my kinder and elementary days who did those to us before. Experienced multiple times ngl when i didn't give an f when few of them passrf away
Taeseo you absolute manchild. Flipping out every second instead of communicating.
Put him in the diapers.
Huh, so this whole confinement/obsession/anger thing could have been done without rape all along — who knew?! -_-
(Dear author, pretty please don't make me eat my words! (●'◡'●)ﾉ)
Anyhow, if anyone doubted that the ML was a red flag, it was honestly their own fault. The signs were there all along. I just hope he stays true to his red flag and doesn't turn black.
Harming himself just to see his love interest is even more selfish than anything he has done in previous chapters. His whole thought process, where he wishes for Nanjo to feel guilty about his injuries/death, is a textbook example of the behaviour of a manipulative narcissistic abuser. Boy go to therapy and leave Nanjo alone wth.
Oops I meant to like (=・ω・=)
True but man had messed up childhood so yea.. Your totally right on him getting therapy. But Nanjo is too damn kind so he helps this little shit. I really love Nanjo man....
Whenever I see Hyuna, I turn into a howling wolf looking up at the moon ...or rather a dog.
The fact that she's canonically into girls aswell
SHE IS?!?!?? I DIDN'T KNOW THAT OMG
Lol no wonder she threw up when yoojin said ily
The author of the novel guenseo did a QnA a few years back,a girl asked a question something like,I work a stable job at an office,I'm responsible and blah blah,would Hyuna date girls,the author responded with Hyuna may face backlash from the old men at her company for dating a woman,but she wouldn't care enough about them if she really likes you.
Lmaoo
The novel author along with the adaptors are really into Yuri which I love,seri and biwan are authors and artists of 'Her tale of shim chong' which is a goated Yuri,they are also the adaptors of this manhwa,the novel author guenseo also ships riette and sooyoung,in the novel later on in the Korean media or like media in general there were soo many dating rumors regarding them
Thats so cute omg. STRAP
God I had forgotten how much I loved this story when I first read it. I need to go through my 8-10/10 list and read them peak manhwas again.
Story so shitty, but artstyle so nice and familiar that I had to look up whether it was written by the same author who wrote Low Tide in Twilight or not.
The character development and redemption are almost on a par with those of my boy Zuko. 10/10
In my head I decided that the side story is just different manhwa.
Good grief, this is painful to read. Although I feel bad for Mokyeon and his childhood experiences broke my heart, he deserves the shitstorm from Nanjo (although not the beating - any kind of violence = bad).
Having a hard life is not an excuse for making other people's lives harder or for not working on becoming a decent person.He has already met some good people and is able to recognise admirable traits in others. So technically, the groundwork is laid.
This story in a nutshell is kinda like: 'how to solve a self-inflicted problem that wouldn't exist if I weren't such a stubborn mule and could put my brain to use by THINKing, analysing and reflecting.'
But to each their own, i guess. (︶︿︶)＝凸