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Well, gay sex isn't anything at all like hetero sex. It can take 45 minutes or more of foreplay just to prepare the anus for entry. Then you consider "rebound time" between rounds, and three hours is only three or four rounds at the most. With a woman, you can just jam it in there without a whole lot of foreplay to get things prepared, men's asses aren't like that - actually, not many asses, male or female, are like that. Hetero sex can take as little as three minutes from start to finish, where even a "quickie" for gay men can take thirty minutes if the bottom has not already prepared themselves in advance. That's only counting anal as sex though. For most gay men a "quickie" consists of a blowjob for each. Yaoi is not the best place to learn about gay sex, frankly, neither is gay porn. What takes under a minute to read through in a manga actually takes an hour or more to achieve in real life. As for porn, all the necessary preparations are done in advance and editing is magic.

What you just wrote about hetero sex, is disgusting and inaccurate.

I happen to be a woman with 35 years of sexual experience and a nurse. Nothing I said is inaccurate, though it my be vulgar to some. You may not like the WAY I said it, but you can't refute the fact that what I said is accurate.

And just in case you're a complete idiot, "hetero sex" is a cock and a pussy (that's a penis and a vagina, if that makes you feel better, buttercup). Anal is always anal even if the partners are a man and a woman or a man and a man or a woman and another woman wearing a strap on or a woman with a strap on and a man... wait, those last two are called "pegging", but it's still anal. I forgot to mention that I also have 20 years of experience in the adult entertainment industry. So, please, feel free to respond when you have accumulated 35+ years of sexual experience, 20+ years in the adult entertainment industry and four years of medical school. I'd be happy to hear from you.

There’s no need for name calling. I’m not an idiot, I was offended by what you said. And as a 35 year old women I would assume you can understand why. You’re a woman who may want a man to just “jam in it there” without out any four play or self lubricant but I don’t know any others that do. It would be painful and it would make sex uncomfortable for the man as well. Women can produce their own ‘lubricant’, or buy it. But it’s a necessary for comfortable enjoyable sex. Men produce Pre-cum for that very same reason. I am a woman too, and what you said about women needing no forplay or lubricant is inaccurate. You don’t need 35 years of sexual experiences, and medical credentials to know that. Just one or 2 days in middle school sex ed class. Also I thought what you wrote about the anal made sense and I didn’t argue any of that. I’m willing to keep going back and forth with this commentary but I don’t want to do that if you can’t be an adult about it.

45 minutes, seriously?! Actually, it never took me this long, but maybe I'm different (⊙…⊙ ) But I agree that yaoi it' s not something to learn about gay sex. Neither porn. Actually porn is more like fantasy than reality.

As an "old ass" (lol) at anal, 45 minutes is about how long it takes me to get off 2 or 3 times. LOL However, I have had several experiences with people, straight or seemingly straight men in particular, where it took at least that long for them to get used to the sensation of my fingers inside them for a prostate massage or anal play in women. More than half of their hesitancy is psychological. Therefore, going slow is an absolute necessity. That said, I have friends who are gay and older than me, with 20 years more experience than me, who can "take a dick like a woman". (Their words, not mine). It all comes down to your state of mind, how well you take care of your body and how well your partner takes care of you.

Sex is something you have to experience to understand. There are too many nuanced layers to sex to take a manga or porn as "gospel". And some yaoi tell incredibly huge lies. Porn can be even worse.

Offense is always taken, but rarely given. Your offense is none of my business. That's all on you. Your offense is in your own mind based on your own insecurities and experiences. It has nothing to do with me. Since you don't employ me, feed me, clothe me, keep me warm, keep a roof over my head, fuck me and I didn't give birth to you, your opinion of me means less than the used toilet tissue I flushed this morning. You can be offended by what I just said too and it will still not be any of my business. Do you understand now?

Do you really think that I'm 35? Did I start having sex at birth? You obviously ARE an idiot. A healthy, premenopausal woman constantly makes lubrication because the same fluids for lubrication aid in the natural cleansing of the vaginal canal. This occurs from just prior to her first menstruation until she reaches menopause. During these years, an average, healthy woman will find she has a normal "discharge" that has nothing to do with her period. This is why hetero sex can be described as just "jamming it in", since this "discharge" is constant and not necessarily connected to foreplay - spelled foreplay not four play. Perhaps they don't have sex ed in your school, but you should consider discussing this with a trusted adult. You are obviously missing the basic mechanics not only of sex but of your own body. Precum can be a lubricant, but it also contains semen and occasionally sperm cells. So, unless you are prepared for a pregnancy, precum is not a good idea for a lubricant. A woman's body makes copious amounts of lubricant once aroused, where a man may make as little as one drop or none at all. Precum as a lubricant in anal sex runs the same risks of STDs as internal ejaculation. Using one's own precum as an anal lubricant on their own anus is feasible, but it is rare for a man to make the quantity required for easy entry past the anal sphincter, especially in the case of virgins or those who do not often partake in anal sex.

Pardon my multiple replies, I am in a position where my time is limited and I can only write in 5 or 10 minute increments.

Now, let's discuss the female body aside from lubrication. The vagina is a "two way road". A penis is meant to go in an a baby is meant to, later, come out. This is also another reason that you can just "jam it in and go". The vagina is built for this purpose and aside from stretching to allow the skull of a newborn to pass through it, that is its purpose. The vagina has raised ridges lining the walls to aid in allowing the penis to enter and stay. These same ridges relax and flex aiding the movement of deposited semen toward and through the cervix into the uterus for fertilization. The anal sphincter and anal cavity are just the opposite. The vagina has only the cervical sphincter located at the top. The anal cavity has the anal sphincter located at the bottom. The vagina stretches easily and naturally to accept a penis of almost any size and pass a baby as large as 11 pounds. A baby weighing over 11 pounds prior to delivery is usually born via c-section. The anus and anal cavity, however, can easily tear or rupture with an object greater than 12 cm in diameter. The anus can stretch and relax, but at no where near the level of the vagina. A newborn's shoulders and chest can be as large as 30 cm in diameter and pass through the vagina easily. Basically, a woman is built to have a cock "jammed in". It is our biological purpose as mammals to procreate and having a cock jammed in us is how we procreate. Humans are at least lucky. Unlike felines who have barbs on their penises and canines who have an engorged "knot" that prevents the female from escaping during mating. We have it comparatively easy.

I get it. You didn't like the phrase "jam it in". Regardless of your feelings on the matter, this is precisely how all mammals have sex. Do you think the dog, cat, cow, horse, elephant or sheep have foreplay? They don't and humans are mammals like every other. Foreplay is a psychological requirement, not a physiological one. Pain is part of sex, just as pain is part of childbirth. They go hand in hand and the body has ways of countering it. Oxytocin for instance. Oxytocin is a hormone released during childbirth that helps block pain on low levels, alters the mother's memory of the pain, softens and dialates the cervix and helps the mother bond with the child. Oxytocin is also released during sex. Both men and women have oxytocin hormones, but women have it in greater abundance than men. Women also release greater amounts of oxytocin during sexual activity. It functions exactly the same as during childbirth. Pain is reduced, the memory of the pain is altered, the cervix softens and dilates for the acceptance of semen into the uterus and the woman bonds with her partner. This also occurs in men, but the level of oxytocin released is much lower. This has gone on since before we "swung down out of the trees" and continues today in every mammal on the planet. Foreplay has nothing to do with it. So, yes, mammalian females and mammalian males have sex by jamming it in there and going to town and yes, humans are mammals. This concludes my "sex ed 101" lesson.

I'm not very experience, but I think You have no reason to lie, so I belive what you wrote. And I know that yaoi tell huge lies because I'm a guy and sometimes when I read yaoi I just laught in my mind and have a facepalm. Sometimes I think that mangaka shouldbe wrote "This story is fiction" because some girls true belived especially in sex scenes. But it's just sometimes, lol