i recommended a song on a really big server (300k people) and i didnt know the artist was cancelled and everyone threw tomatoes at me and called me a loser and shoved me in a locker and locked me in there and threw me (in the locker) out the window. i don't listen to that artist anymore or recommend songs to strangers ╥﹏╥ 2 reply
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I’m going to echo others by re-confirming that self awareness is always the first step. Self reflection is not something everyone can do.
Tbh, and not to downplay your very real, very valid feelings but this fluctuating of thoughts and emotions sounds like hormones.
Meaning that these extremes ...... reply
Hey, so you're not entirely an asshole if you do actually appreciate their efforts and try to self-reflect. I think honestly, what you can do right now is tell others that you appreciate their work and also I'm aware that you're struggling about self-appreciation but whenever you're feeling like that, tell yourself "This is enough, I did my best." ...... reply
If you feel like you are about to explode, you are probably bottling up your feelings. Try to express them in some way: painting, writing, singing, acting or just buying a journal to vent. See a psychologist if you can just to learn how to express yourself properly and see if what you are feeling is true or if you have self hatred. Good luck! Don't...... reply
you could try something like a regular gratitude journal but for other ppl's good points;; like writing "It's nice that Mary always shows up early and sets the table up for lab" or "Jane does awesome in verbal presentations and she fixed her references completely";;; but also it's totes normal to want validation or be competitive, just focus it on ...... reply
May I offer a perspective I've learned about wanting to be better than everyone else?
I think a lot of us grow up with the mindset that we need to be special. That we are special. Maybe it's because we have a talent for X. Maybe it's because we look like Y. Maybe because A,B,C.
But why do we want to be special? Smarter? Prettier? Nicer?
Most likel...... reply
I agree with the person that said some of your feelings are probably valid. Media also contributed to my life views. So watching heartwarming shows help. I was also taught empathy.
I’ve always been a kind person but sometimes I fumble. When I was like 18 or 19, a man had approached me asking to buy him food. I was so surprised I apologized and ...... reply
