Ok I read your replies and seeing as consulting your mom to back you up didn't even work maybe you could just be like hey if you're not gonna let me have a lock then you guys should not have the right to a lock on your bedrooms either. Whatever reason like "Well we're adults and we need our privacy" they hit you with, just counter it back at them l...... 2 reply
First, my personal opinion is that people need privacy at a certain age and if your parents have the means to provide it but won't, for whatever reason, it's a problem.
If you want to continue to talk about this and manage to convince them; offer them a spare key to keep in a neutral area like the kitchen. It's not for your stepfather's pocket,...... reply
auntie therapist is telling you:
it´s a question of power.It´s him which don´t want to lose control.it shows his own unsecurity. he feels as the boss. That´s all - probably. reply
Uhhh, honestly, I kinda feel like you need to talk about it to your stepfather. The older you get, the more privacy you want, and that is totally fair, so I feel like it's pretty wrong of your stepfather to deny you that, but at the same time, I think it's necessary to understand what he means by not being ''responsible'' in this situation. Just tr...... 1 reply
He should still give you a lock. I don't understand what your dad means by "responsiblity". Ask him if he trusts you or not. If he answers like no or says something like this,"Of course I trust you, but i want you to be responsible." those answers equivalent to, lol no i no trusty you. 1 reply
so ik that mangago isnt like your therapist but i need your opinion- theres no lock on my bedroom door and my stepdad said i cant have one because im not 'responsible' so uh- whats your guys' opinion on this?-