I think most of us do realize it. Most people just know that the sex scenes are unrealistic, like every other smut in existence. It isn't like straight smut scenes are much more realistic, tbh, lol.
Edit: Forgot to add this;
Authors think foreplay is boring when it makes the sex scene way more passionate with a well written or well drawn foreplay...... 1 reply
I mean most of it were written by women. I saw some stories where they just put their d*cks on their ass without any preparation or lube and you expect it to hurt and bleed as hell but they don’t? Kinda unrealistic and yeah no one will hate you ‘bout that cause you have a point. reply
