I see a lot of people on this thread saying things like, "why are you even asking this question?" but I get why OP is asking this because, I have seen it many times on this site too. A lot of times when a yaoi manga has a rape scene, the response to those scenes tend to be positive saying it was "hot" or "sexy". Yet on the other hand when yaoi mang...... 3 reply
Fuck, I accidentally left my reply on someone else's answer. I'll just repost what I said here:
I don't even think there's a real debate to this question. Absolutely rape is worse. ABSOLUTELY. Rape leaves you with mental scars and it's fucking hard to get over. It's painful and it sucks. Sure, cheating is also painful and it sucks and it can form ...... reply
Well I can't say anything for anyone else, but at least for me; I have strong sense of reality. Rape in manga is not real and would hardly ever happen like that in real world. It's merely illustration by the author for the storyline. Same for cheating. Couldn't care less, it's just ink on paper and image in your head. Scary ones are those who can't...... 1 reply
Both are inexcusable, but I think the thing that bothers me personally the most is... hmm. Actually they both do. There is no way I can choose because no matter what, they both cause emotional distress/trauma.
This sounds strange, but if I had to choose between the two I'd choose getting cheated on.
I've lost my trust in people long ago after all...... reply
i feel like both of them are fucking gross but i also personally feel like in some instances rape is eroticised in manga, and i mean, if someone likes rape fantasies and rape play, they would probably enjoy that. i have seen manga with very realistic depictions of rape, as well, but of course, they're quite rare. i wouldn't defend irl rape, but i f...... reply
Some people fetishize rape, others find excuses for it, some don't like it but just ignore it and keep on reading (because rape is everywhere), and so on. But cheating is probably more hated than rape because of the intention of the author. Cheating is meant to actually make readers upset and hurt, while rape is a way of """acting""" on your feelin...... 4 reply
This is yaoi so ofc ppl r gna tend to be ok w fantasizing about rape. However, I would like to say that rape is NOT ok //at all//. I don't even like reading about it really (I'm the kind that fantasizes about sweet things or angsty things, none of that fetish crap that's illegal irl). On the other hand, no one likes a cheater and no one fantasizes ...... 1 reply
People seem to be qualifying that they're okay with rape in manga, but I don't think it's okay. Manga that involves rape often romanticizes the situation, but that's not real. Rape is a traumatic experience, and the idea that it can be okay because rhe one being rape just doesn't know it yet is propogaged by its fetishization. Sex initiated by peer...... 2 reply
Rape is obviously worse, it effects the victim (male or female) on physical and emotional levels. They gain high levels of trauma and fear and loss of trust from it, and even more problems when nobody believes them. It's especially bad on male victims, since nobody believes them most of the time, just because they have a penis. Even when someone be...... reply
Honestly, it doesn't matter. I mean they're both bad but yaoi representation makes it hard for many readers to judge. I mean I read a manga where people cried "cheating" when it was rape. So according to them, rape=cheating, and the number of likes on this comment was pretty high scary enough. Then we have the idea of "sex partners" or "open relati...... 3 reply
