Hey. What I've heard from you up to now, sounds like you felt like you had more of the responsibilities of a caretaker than a lover. Did I get that right? In that case, I understand why you might have felt relief when y'all broke up. Maybe that really has something to do with the feelings that faded away. Or maybe not. Just some questions for you t...... reply
I also feel the same way as you. When I broke up with my previous bf, I was sad, but I wasn't sobbing or crying. I mean, I never cry or anything for the other exes as well, but the last one was literally the one that I though serious and very committed relationship. I am 26 and many people think that I will settle down with him. I thought so as wel...... reply
Could be aromanticism! You can be completely capable of feeling lust for people or even developing crushes but feeling romantic feelings can be impossible most of the time. That doesn't mean there's something wrong with you or anything! If you feel like you're happiest on your own and doing your own thing, then you should do that, no need to feel p...... reply
I'd like to think that in any relationship there was definitely love. I think we just forget it was there. I dont think your incapable of love. I think that he wasnt your one. Sometimes we meet people that are just meant to pass by. They teach us lessons and leave us. So thst we can improve ourselves and understand how to deal with and love ourselv...... reply
Okay so I dont know if anyone is gonna bother reading this. Just thought I should throw this here because I'm lonely and its valentines day. I'll probably spend it with my manga and paintings surrounding me.
Anyways, ever since I was little I never found guys sexually or anythingly attractive. Yeah so normal people would think yeah I'm probably a...... reply
Never really been interested in it. I can’t even picture myself in a relationship. I went through high school and college without even caring about it. I do think it’s nice to spend your time with someone for the rest of your life. It makes things less lonely. It doesn’t even have to be romantic love. Companionship from friends and family are...... reply
why are you speaking in behalf of myself? kidding. I totally relate to this one, especially being egoistic and low self-esteem part, but I haven't thought of having romantic relationship yet (mainly because of the commitments lol). I cannot give you a proper advice coz maybe I also need one hahahaha, just enjoy your hobbies right now maybe one day ...... 1 reply
I fell in love. And it pretty much was the worst thing that could've happened to me.
Like everyone else, I've always had a few crushes, but I've never felt anything romantic towards them, so I just watched them from afar.
But last year, there was someone. A girl. She was the kindest, the most beautiful person I've ever seen. Her smile and her jokes...... reply
So my bf just broke up with me. When he said it honestly I didn’t really feel anything, just gave him a thumbs up and went back to my work. Okay maybe I did feel something...I know that it sounds cruel but maybe I was a bit relived?Our personalities and interests all matched really well, it’s just, after the first 5months of being together I stopped really feeling anything romantically towards him. We’ve been together 3 years now and most days feel like an uphill battle. He has mental health issues and I feel like overtime I’ve turned into more of a mother figure than a significant other, and I’m so tired, maybe that’s why I didn’t really feel much when he suggested breaking up? Anyways I’m just a bit confused, was I actually in love to start with or was it lust? Maybe I just couldn’t bring myself to feel things romantically really cuz I was always too busy caring for him. I’m hoping that it was that. My previous relationship fizzled out similarly and I wasn’t a carer in that scenario so I’m a bit scared that I’m incapable of actually loving someone as more than a family member or a friend(which I still consider my, I guess, recent ex to be).
