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weird fujoshis/fudanshis
This is a little long lol. So, gay man here. I know a lot of you on here like bl manga and stuff and as do I, but I was wondering if any of you are like this in real life from my personal experience. I am very openly gay with my boyfriend and like going to japanese bookstores with my gay-male friends and/or my bf to buy boys love manga and I cant even count how many times girls have come up to us and acted like we were some sort of exhibit of gay men and invading our privacy with weird personal questions. Even when Im not buying such books, being with my boyfriend always leads to weird questions that make us both very uncomfortable. So, I was wondering how you guys feel about this? If youre ever in the same position, what do you think? If you do this to gay strangers on the street, why? What is your thought process I dont know if its just something i find uncomfortable, as much as I also enjoy bl, I dont find it comfortable at all to have someone come up to me and ask me questions about my personal or sexual life without even knowing me. Is it my fault for acting too intimate with my partner outside of our home? have these things ever happened to you? Let me know your thoughts please! ps, for said fujoshis/fudanshis, I think I can speak for most of us when I say that its none of your business whether or not Im a “top” or “bottom”, why should I let some stranger know?? It makes us uncomfortable so please stop.
I would say that this is probably because they get so obsessed with bl that they blur the lines between fiction and reality and when they see a real gay couple then it's like their fantasies have come to life.
The thing is, they need to be taught that it isn't okay to do stuff like that and that gay people are toys who are there simply for their e...... reply
im not in your position at all but im sorry that their actions are making you uncomfortable. u should let people know if they try to ask you anything you don’t want to answer cause it’s 100% not ur fault at all!! reply
First of all it's not your fault it's just that some people are weird and they act without thinking. But it doesn't mean that all of us are the same. As a straight female who loves to read bl stuff, I don't accept those fujoshis/fudanshis. If i was in your place I too would've felt uncomfortable and invaded. BL and yaoi stuff that we enjoy are jus...... 1 reply
I literally avoid going into retailers that sell BL content and just generally people who read BL for this exact reason irl.
Encounters like this happen way more often than y'all on here seem to think they do (and far too often to chalk things up to solely "bad apples"), and there is not a single good reason for me, or anyone else for that matter,...... 1 reply
Speakin' as a queer person myself, I understand... Happily, people normally don't ask me that kind of stuff because they usually think I'm a woman until I talk lmao.
I know people are like that though and it's so fucking cringy like... Queer folk ain't here to be an accessory; we're people with lives and hopes and fears.
Also the whole forced botto...... reply
Hi! I'm sorry for what is happening to you, those girls are at fault. You should be free to act as you want with your boyfriend, no matter what your sexual orientation is. I think the main problem is that those girl weren't educated for reacting to this kind of thing that isn't "normal" for them. I don't know where you live, but as an example, I ha...... reply
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I'm a girl, i enjoy reading BL, but I could never understand why would someone fetishize and invade privacy of real gay men. I hear so many cringeworthy things about fujoshis that I reject this label for myself. I've actually been in a similar position when I was with my (now ex) girlfriend, and this objectify...... 1 reply
I'm sorry this happens to you I really hate fujoshis who invade on gay people's lifes just because of BL as a fujoshi I hate it I think it gives a bad name to the fujoshis who don't do this because I promise not all fujoshis are like this just some to be honest I find it pretty sad that people can't tell the difference between fiction and real life...... 2 reply
Your relationship is nobody’s business, no matter how intimate you are in public and they shouldn’t ask you inappropriate questions. I definitely don’t blame you for getting upset and uncomfortable, people are just rude. I’m a big fan of bl but I’d never go up to someone just because they’re gay and treat them like this, I’m sorry you...... reply
