weird fujoshis/fudanshis

This is a little long lol. So, gay man here. I know a lot of you on here like bl manga and stuff and as do I, but I was wondering if any of you are like this in real life from my personal experience. I am very openly gay with my boyfriend and like going to japanese bookstores with my gay-male friends and/or my bf to buy boys love manga and I cant even count how many times girls have come up to us and acted like we were some sort of exhibit of gay men and invading our privacy with weird personal questions. Even when Im not buying such books, being with my boyfriend always leads to weird questions that make us both very uncomfortable. So, I was wondering how you guys feel about this? If youre ever in the same position, what do you think? If you do this to gay strangers on the street, why? What is your thought process I dont know if its just something i find uncomfortable, as much as I also enjoy bl, I dont find it comfortable at all to have someone come up to me and ask me questions about my personal or sexual life without even knowing me. Is it my fault for acting too intimate with my partner outside of our home? have these things ever happened to you? Let me know your thoughts please! ps, for said fujoshis/fudanshis, I think I can speak for most of us when I say that its none of your business whether or not Im a “top” or “bottom”, why should I let some stranger know?? It makes us uncomfortable so please stop.