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How do you handle the important people in your life who keep letting you down?
My best friend just recently took the board examination for the 2nd time. When he told his family that it was so hard, harder than the 1st one last year, and he thinks he may not make it again, one of his family members told him to just quit it and just look for another job or study another course. I wasn't able to talk to my friend in those months he was studying because he was so focus about it and he worked his ass off so that he'll pass the exam this time but we're talking about board exam. A lot of people know how hard it is and failing is, unfortunately, part of it.
So yeah, he was so depressed when he told me about it and tbh, if I were him, I would probably get angry to that person and might cut him off in my life because what that person did just create such negativity in one's life. But of course, since it's a family member, I couldn't tell that to my friend since he's very loyal to his family, no matter how they keep letting him down.
I don't know why there are some family members who act like this. Family should support each other. What happened to my friend somehow made me realized why a lot of students commit suicide. Why there are people who would rather die instead of seeking help.
If you were in his position, what will you guys do? What good advice should I give to my friend?
Well this is my personal opinion and I really hope I don't come off as a bitch, cause I in no way am saying this to be evil or anything (but):
I feel like you just gotta suck it up and move on or ignore it. In this situation, I honestly feel that cutting a relative out of your life completely just because of they said something mean like that is a...... reply
hmm...i feel like this is a comlicated issue and i wouldn't give any advice for this particular situation since i don't have all the details, but i would say this:
if i had a family member or friend who did something i felt was stupid i would definetly call them out on it...to me real support is being honest with people and helping them see their ...... reply
I'm not sure if you were asking specifically for active strategies for your friend or just general strategies because you are curious. I agree with other commenters that it's tricky to give "advice" without knowing the full situation or either party's personalities. I can't completely resist, though, so I will give just a little suggestion.
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Ask him what he wants to do? Ultimately, it's up to him whether or not he continues down this path that's difficult for him, even if his family might not support him the right way. But listen, his family might think that they ARE supporting him, they see that he's struggling, and they think that suggesting an easier path might help. It's not the ki...... reply