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I am unsure of my feelings and thoughts towards men. What should I do?
Apparently, I have been rejecting every single one of them whenever they try to either ask me out on a date or simply asking me to hang out with them (obviously so that they can get to know me better and date me later). I don't know if it's because I have high standards or I'm just not interested in doing anything with them at all. I'm unsure about my feelings towards this most of the time because I would really like to date a guy, but I don't want to fulfill it since I am fearful of being alone with them and also not interested in ANYONE that comes my way. I've also noticed that I alwaayysss get irritated whenever they keep trying to have a conversation with me through snapchat or through text message. I even cut them off out of nowhere and delete them out of annoyance! I know it's a dick move, but I just don't want them to keep talking to me (even though I actually want a guy to talk to me like what the fuck??). I believe I have also noticed that there are guys who I talk to that don't annoy me (my friends basically) but there are some that do. They all talk similar and are chill with me but I just get irritated at some of them and I don't understand that about myself. Are my senses telling me that I shouldn't deal with some of the guys and are automatically giving me bad emotions towards them? I also do have heavy crushes on a few KPOP celebrities and anime men and I believe I got my ideal interests from them too so I believe that can be a factor to me rejecting because no guy can resemble my interests ||OTL I'm currently 19 years old and I understand that I still have a long way to go to think about men in a serious matter, but this has been confusing and bugging me lately.
Does this all make sense? Sorry if it doesn't since this is literally how complex my brain has been for a while and that's why I am unsure because it's all over the place ;A; I do have more that I want to say, but I think you guys got the summary already xD
What should I do? What should I think and believe? Should I just give a couple of them a chance? I'm honest with my feelings and I just... don't want to show fake care or focus towards them. Ahhhh I'm so confused!!
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I'm 20 years old female and feel exactly like you. Like really the same on all the points you mentionned. I also struggled about it during my high school years, and now college days. I realised this summer I may be Aromantic.
It means " a lack of/little of romantic attraction" ( to put it simply)
I suggest you do some research on it, and try to...... 2 reply
Try to push your boundaries a little. Be clear that you are not interested right now but maybe just pick someone who accepts that and hang out a little. It doesn't have to be much.
It's OK to not be interested in anyone, and you shouldn't force yourself, but you also shouldn't avoid people because you are afraid. It will be worse if you are in a s...... 1 reply
hey! could you be aromantic or gay? your description of your lack of attraction towards men ties closely into being a lesbian or being aromantic. i’m a lesbian myself and my past self relates to this. i can explain more on the matter if you’d like me to do so. 1 reply
Group date. It helps with the whole social thing. If you are uncomfortable with a one on one setting. While interacting with people figure out your own comfort zone. It may just be that you are uncomfortable with online interactions with strangers in a romantic setting. Or if you are like me you attract some weirdness. People build feelings differe...... reply
I think everyone here feels the same including myself. I know exactly what you feel with guys. Even I get bored of them and stop texting them for days without any reason. I ignore their texts something because again, the conversation gets boring. I'm 26 and never had a boyfriend.
In my opinion, I think you haven't found a guy who can really talk t...... reply
save that time and energy for yourself, since you're the one constant in your life, lol. i wouldn't waste my time and emotional energy interacting with people i really didn't need to. it's okay to be callous there. you're not obligated to give dudes the time of day. and while you should try things out if you want to put yourself out there, if you'r...... 1 reply
I'm in the same situation as you, except that I did go on dates with the guys who asked me to and it was interesting but it never worked out.
Noticing the fact that I backed off everytime, I actually took the time to define what qualities I want my boyfriend to have. (Mostly selfconfidence and humor)
I came to the conclusion that the problem reall...... reply
