i need advice/help

my friend and i have been acting like we're dating for a couple months (calling eachother love and saying ily <3 etc) but idk if we r actually dating??? we never asked each other out and we've only met irl 2 times. i dont have any romantic feelings for them but i think they do. i heard from another friend that they have actual feelings and think we r actually dating (they said this back in february so maybe it changed???)
the problem is that there is another person i like who also kinda likes me (also complicated,,,)
i feel guilty and im wondering if i should ask the friend im "dating" if we r actually together. im worried i might hurt her feelings tho :(
any suggestions?