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Am I weird or not ?
hey everyone. When i was 11 years old, i was raped by my step-father. Because of this i had psychological issues for years and never had the possibility to get close to someone. Now everything is fine in my life. I'm acctually pretty young, i'm 18 and recently a guy that i've known from middle school ask me out. So i accept because he's a nice person and we're get on well together. we're going out from almost 2 month now, i've tell him about my past and he seems to accept it. But i don't know how i feel, i don't know what love is. Nothing happend during this 2 month just one kiss at the beginning. I'm scared on getting close to him. And i'm scared that maybe i don't want to get close to him because of the things that happend to me and not because maybe i don't have feelings for him. So i'm lost... i don't know what to do... Anyway, i'm not seeking for a miracle anwser, i just wanted to confide to you.. thanks. (Ps: i'm not english speaker so sorry for eventual mistakes)
No you are not weird at all :) What happened to you is just awful._.So it's not surprising that you have a hard time trusting people . Actually, it's quite impressive how strong and brave enough you are to share your story AND try dating . Take your time and don't rush into a situation you are not comfortable with yet. Listen to what you really...... 1 reply
You're absolutely not weird. Because if your past it is harder for you to trust people and feel comfortable with them in the intimate sense. It's wonderful that your partner isn't pushing you to do anything. If you've never experienced love it's no wonder that you don't know what it is like, but it's not the fairytale like thing that the stories ma...... 1 reply
It's ok to not know what to do. I went through stuff too growing up and when someone tries to get close to me romantically, I well...run for the hills. You sound like me, scared of getting close to others. And that's ok. I still don't know if I should date or not. Instead I'm just putting it off for now and raising animals. And if you don't feel co...... reply
So first of all, you are absolutely not weird at all, this is a perfectly normal way to react when you went through something like that. Most people also develop trust issues and have a hard time with dating after experiencing a rape/sexual assault.
Now, do not push yourself too much if you feel too scared. Running away may not be the best decisio...... 1 reply
No u are not weird...its natural to be on guard,especially when u go through that shit..in my opinion,if u don't like him then stop dating him..no one like getting play by their lover right?but firstly,u should figure out either your feelings for him is love or just merely attachment..seems in your case,u ain't recover from the trauma yet..you sho...... reply
