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Ways to fix self-doubt
Okay so I just broke up with my boyfriend because of nothing he did, the reason I did was because every time I looked at him I felt like he was way way way out of my league and I feel like he deserves someone better than me. He always sends me kind words of affection and it just makes me feel bad so I was wondering if this is something I should try and fix or just keep living like normal. I also don't like to speak up in public situations because I feel really nervous and I think it has some ties to this.
I"ve been married for 14 years now and we have been together for about 16 years. My self esteem is very low one could say gutter scum thinks better of its self than I do of myself. But even with all my low self esteem my hubby still loves me and praises me. He says I'm pretty and all that stuff though in my mind I don't see how he could think such ...... reply
This relates to me alot. I also think my boyfriend is too out of my league. How did i accept the fact that he was my bf ? I convinced myself that the relationship was just a means for him to experience dating because he never dated before . So for the past 4 months i say in my heart that he truly doesnt love me and always prepare myself for a break...... 1 reply
The being nervous in public situation's is a different beast all together so I'm going to put that aside and focus on the whole self esteem thing. I find one of the biggest mistakes people make is getting into relationships thinking that a relationship is about receiving validation and worth from someone else (aka your significant other). No matter...... reply
I don’t think your dislike of speaking in public situations has major ties to your self doubt as a lot of people struggle with this. And perhaps you were over analysing what your boyfriend was sending you, he may have just been trying to act like how he thinks a boyfriend should act like in the movies, send loving cheesy texts of love and affecti...... reply
Sweetie, the way is getting professional help. We here can talk allmighty all we want, but nothing compares to someone who has deep knowledge and scientific background to actually help you effectively. In my opinion, it's nothing wrong with you, it's just how society works this century. We think we need to be the same as the others to fit in, but t...... 1 reply
I'd say there's no fixing it. You'll never get rid of it, the nagging corrosive voice will aaaalways be there. It does get better; you can train your "rational" mind to overcome shyness so you can get what you want buy first you need to know what it is that you WANT AND NEED, that way you can start screening your actions by asking yourself "is doin...... reply
I don't know about the situation, so I am going to talk about what I know about my previous relationships. I really don't know if it applys to you at all.
Sometimes people make you feel bad while making it seem as if they are trying to make you feel good. It might be the way they say it or other things they say that don't seem related.
Some people ...... reply
Why do you think so little of yourself? Living like this just sounds suffocating.
He sent you words of affection? Well, he may even mean every single word he wrote or said to you. Every person is different and has an own strong point, that attracts others. People like him, who (at least it sounds like it) are quite popular with others, are able to...... reply
