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Is reading BL bad? Does it fetishize gay men?
Does it really generally fetishize gay men? I thoroughly understand that a lot of BL material portray sex heavily especially on the Yaoi genre. A more typical position as to why reading BL is bad is because it fetishizes gay men. Does it really fetishize them? Is the fandom that toxic? (I have a vague idea about this, but what I find problematic is the shipping of irl people as well as the disregard on the normalization of rape and dubcon.) Hence, Is reading BL bad?
I read BL and have been invested of it since 2017. Now, I've been curious if this interest of mine in reading BL is really healthy. I acknowledge that like other stories in the market (whether it be gay or straight), it is still just a fiction. So, I am curious if reading BL is really fetishizing gay men and if people should stop reading and making them in general. thanks.
You know people from 2021 were so insanely ignorant, yaoi obviously fetishizes gay relationships and makes them extremely heteronormative. I dont see why people dont think its fetishizing i mean?? It fetishizes homosexuality so the details like being a rich CEO are not relavent at all. A simple google search will back this up but either way readin...... 2 reply
Today i m gonna change my mind and i m saying that people who r worried about whether it s fetishizing or not to read bl should stop reading bl. Stop reading it and relax, stop worrying, purify your life and be healthy 1 reply
I mean we fetishize the porn aren't we? Like hentai for example, people like hentai porns bcoz people have their own taste in porn, for me I love Yaoi but that doesn't mean I fetish irl people and force my ship into them. They would feel really uncomfortable, unless they themselves is cool with it. Its just people need to realize the difference be...... reply
I like to seperate bl and yaoi so I’ll mainly be talking about yaoi in this:
I think yaoi by itself isn’t super fetishising besides from the fact that people use seme/uke top/bottom to refer to the characters and how more often than not the author/artist separated the two by making one hyper feminine and the other rather masculine (of course t...... 2 reply
Bl is a romance genre, it's not inherently sexual so no, reading it is not fetishizing gay men. Alot of people forget that fetishizing someone means viewing them as if they are a sexual object, like for example shipping two random gay men just because they are gay, calling them "real life bl" etc all examples of actual fetishization. Just because a...... 1 reply
No but addiction of anything is bad
I remember I met a guy who's over crazy and obsessive about yuri but hate bl/gay he
He used to said gay is sin and yuri is pure
Then I tell him stfu
Sexuality is a person's personal choice 1 reply
As long as you don't hurt anybody (including yourself), you can do what you want.
Read what you want, think what you want, but act with common courtesy.
There is no problem as long as you draw the line between reality and fiction.
Your mind is free, your actions aren't. reply
Yaoi is essentially gay porn so obviously it’s fetishizing gay men. My advice to everyone who reads it is that consume yaoi in moderation, branch out to other genres and don't read too much porn and get addicted to it when you're not even a grown adult. Remember addiction to anything is bad, you may not realize it but porn addiction will negat...... reply
I think the danger lies in people not recognizing or acknowledging the fact that yaoi is ultimately porn. I've had people on this very site tell me that it is art or a story when I argued that yaoi is porn and that all porn fetishizes sex, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Other people acknowledged that it is porn but they wished the stor...... 1 reply
Ive been reading Bl for a long time and whenever someone asks me whether BL is fetishizing mlm and gay relationships or not I feel like laughing. It is a funny and vague question to ask because BL itself was born from the sole fetishization of gay relationships. The excitement and thrill that a reader gets ( mostly women in this case) by watching t...... reply
