People fine with rape in yaoi = hypocrites?

So I've seen people complaining about rape and people complaining about the people bitching about rape but lately I wondered whether the people who didn't mind rape in yaoi are hypocrites.

I get the impression that people don't mind rape if it's not violent (eg. beating, torture) and isn't treated seriously in the story but what if the one who raped the uke is not the seme but some other random guy? would you guys still say that rape is okay? If it was during the beginning of the story and the seme and uke have yet to develop feelings for each other but the uke was vanilla raped (not violent) would you think that it was fine?

I don't know, the main argument that people who are fine with rape in yaoi usually say things like - "it's fiction" or "it always happens in yaoi anyway" but I think they're fine with it because the uke usually ends up with the rapist anyway (aka seme). I feel like there is bias towards seme rapists and are given a free pass and are usually praised at the end of the series but if they weren't the seme they would be trashed upon.