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SO IM BEING VILLAINIZED AND I NEED HELP
There's this junior guy I've known for about 5-6 months and he proposed to me a few days ago but I rejected it and now people are villainizing cuz I rejected a "good" guy. Well, he is a good guy no doubt but I absolutely hate it when people force themselves into someone's else's life or personal space. He would wait for me every day in front of my campus and would almost always be there whenever I'm hanging out with my friends and he would magically appear out of nowhere whenever I'm alone or in trouble. He is a good guy no doubt cuz his behaviour is really nice, he's friendly with everyone, he's kind and polite and has a good sense of humour. He brings me home-cooked meals and snacks often and accompanies me to my hostel. But guess what I didn't ask for all this and as a woman living in a country where we are constantly stalked, poisoned and brutally raped at nighttime, I can't help but be wary. He's way too nosy about what I'm doing or what I'm feeling, he's always around and I find it really suffocating cuz even my friends support his behaviour and would leave us alone. Even my gals arent this "caring". So during the time before the proposal, he was being overly nosy and clingy and "caring" and whatnot and I was at my limit. So when he proposed I straight up declined it. The tone I spoke in was kind of rude and pissy. and now everyone is mad at me cuz he's always been so kind. they're saying stuff like I'm gonna regret it later, that I'm on my high horse and I'm a bitch. and now I'm actually thinking will I really regret this later. Now I'm feeling really bad for being rude. what should I do? should I talk to him or should I clarify stuff to my friends? I'm stressed and I don't feel like going out anymore. I don't wanna see anybody now.
you shouldn't feel bad. you're not obliged to respond to accept anyone's feelings if you don't feel the same way. explain to your friends how you don't feel the same way about him and maybe try telling the guy in a nicer way that you also don't feel the same way? reply
People like him probably won’t listen to a simple talk. I suggest explaining things clearly and concisely to your friends and ask them about their observation of him after hearing about what you said. Get them on your side so you can at least have someone to back up what you’re saying. After that you can either confront him with your friends or...... reply
I just want to say he's a creep I got one boy like that before too and I rejected him too then yeah now his on li-low mode cuz I told his mom he's such an ass (╬￣皿￣)凸 ヽ(`Д´)ﾉ go girl slap that bish reply
If your friends are telling you you are a bad person for rejecting a creep then drop them. Apart from that honestly have a talk with that guy in the PUBLIC place, say he’s been over the top and he’s making you uncomfortable reply
Bestie it's ok to be alone . You did nothing wrong. I would be uncomfortable too if someone is around me all the time . Don't listen to what people say , do what you think is right .
If you don't like the guy then it's ok , trying to like someone just becoz ppl around you wants you to , is unfair to the guy and yourself . Liking someone shouldn't...... reply
Always, always, always trust that inner voice.
A genuinely good guy doesn’t give you that nasty vibe, that awkward feeling of being stalked or pressured or that creeped out feeling.
People won’t stay mad at you. Even if you are on your high horse and being a bitch, it’s ok. The pressure on girls to be nice and good all the time has them p...... reply
It's your choice and it's perfectly fine to reject him
Who do these people think they are to comment on your life like that?
Nobody has the right to push marriage onto you.
Fuck that. Nice guy? Great! If he's such a nice guy, he better understand when someone doesn't want to be his wife.
Why do people think rejections are cruel???
It's your right t...... reply
No pls dont feel bad i think ur gals have a problem if my i gone through ths my best friends would have been happy if i rejected him and celebrate and i dont like people like that he's like a stalker reply
When someone can't take no for an answer, a majority of the time they are not in fact a "good guy". If he is around you all the time now and it ticks you off...how are you going to be engaged to this man? It's only going to get worse because then he will convince himself that he has more reasons to see you. Tell him you are not interested in him, t...... reply
