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am I a bad person?
Two years ago, I had some troubles in school because of a classmate bully. He never harmed me directly, but he would make jokes about my clothing and my shoes. It was kind of his job to tell these jokes because he was the class clown. Those jokes, though, made me uncomfortable. I attempted to make fun of him to help him understand what it feels like, but all he did was ignore me and act as if I didn't exist. So I made the decision to get back at him by becoming closer to him until I became someone he cared about, and then I would distance myself from him. I tried to be friends with him for a while, until we became best friends. He assumed I had a crush on him for some reason, and his friends would tease him about us being a couple even though we were not. After we became friends and I realized how significant I had become to him, I realized that maintaining our friendship was meaningless because my goal was only to make him regret making fun of me and turning my school days into misery. I started to talk less with him. He became quite upset about it and attempted to keep us from drifting apart, but he was unsuccessful. We don't talk as much anymore. I can't help but think, Am I bad for doing this? Should I have forgotten about the past and kept being friends? I feel guilty every time I think about it. Thank you for reading, and please let me hear your opinion.
Well did you enjoy being his friend? It might be why you feel guilty. If you were not able to forgive him for making fun of you it’s probably for the best you guys drifted apart don’t feel too bad and just move on with your life. reply
Youre not a bad person per se, but like… what a waste of your time. Bc in the end did the class clown even know why you did it? Did he feel any regret for making fun of you? Bc it doesnt really seem like he did based on what you said, so it just seems like a waste of time 1 reply
Just to clarify, I did not use the word "bully" for something as trivial as teasing; what he did still affects me to this day. I am always insecure about how I look, and no matter how much others compliment my looks, I don't find their compliments sincere. I didn't want to make my question long, so I left out some details, such as this one. Another...... 1 reply
Hey its okay sometimes we do things that we think is fcked up i cant tell if you were completely good or not Because i wasn't there to see for sure. But Its also the thoughts and the feelings that actually matter what i see is you feel bad about it and that to me shows that you not a bad person at all. on the other hand the boy shouldn't have made ...... reply
I think you aren't really bad but then yeah..like he shouldn't have made fun of you for no reason but again you should have stopped when his friends were literally shipping both of you.
My so called classmate is also kinda like this, I called them out and they were like "meh I don't do that" or like " its all jokes" so Ik how you feel. Rn I jus...... reply