How many of these writers are virgins that get no play???

This has been bugging me...
Every once in a while, I'm deep into a story then I can't take it seriously because the sex is so unrealistic. Maybe Yaoi writers don't know how male anatomy works or they're all virgins, who knows

For example, I hate when a ukes asshole is wetter than the Niagara, and its not event omegaverse. There is little moisture in an actual ass. Unless you plan on tearing your asshole and shitting everywhere, you need to douche, apply heavy lubricant, and say a little prayer. Its time consuming and I get why the self care part isn't included. But, at least use lube...