Weird ass BL age gaps

Now im not talking about illegal ones, those are just pedos but im talking about the ones that are technically legal but feel ILLEGAL. Like why are some of these dudes 30 and their partners will be like 18 or 19?? At your GROWN ASS AGE youre still dating dudes whos ages end in teen??? These mofos r on crack istg, cant spell "predator" without top ..Lmk how yall feel abt it