Toxic masculinity and conversations around "real men"

It really feels like people think talking like an alpha male podcaster about "real men" is a flex, on this site. Fiction doesn't always need to be realistic, but some people act like feminine men are not "real men" and gay men are only beefy and masculine.

Yes, there are some weirdly proportioned child-like bottoms in Yaoi, but that isn't what twinks are in the first place. Some people use 1-2 examples of those to shit on bodies that aren't hulking muscle mass.