reality vs anime

i want to know why people mistake yaoi as gay thing they don t Represent gay people i am straight female and i liked yaoi becouse it only anime boy romance i want to say that yaoi represent anime and no way in real life i hate when people say that yaoi or bl is gay thing i noticed that there a lot of toxic people ship everything in anime and ruined animes like attack on titan and My Hero Academia....and Black Butler is good anime but those crazy bitch say that it yaoi and ship between main mc i can t say anything about this anime without other people telling me that this anime is gay i tried making them understand that anime is not related to gay ship and many other animes .....etc and they say that yaoi is real life thing as they mix between anime and real life and again i only want to discuss this problem (●￣(ｴ)￣●)