Why are you ok with red flags(specifically r*pe) in fictional content?

-DISCLAIMER- The question might’ve come off as aggressive, but I mean no harm, just curious. I want a civilized discussion, don’t want any immaturity. Thanks.

Ok, here’s my long take on this topic:
I really don’t like r*pe or toxic possessiveness/manipulation between mcs when the genre is supposed to romance. However, here and there I’ll enjoy red/black flags when the genre is psychological(and written well). Example bls I’ve read to show y’all what I mean are: “Hwang Young's Misery”, “Yuwon Everlasting” and “Killing Stalking”.

Now, the reason why I don’t like red flags is because everyone(esp the author) is rooting for the mcs to end up together, and call that a good ending. I reaalllyy don’t like it when any type of abuse or violence isn’t being treated properly. It just comes off as lousy writing. This is why I like well written psychological stories, because it treats abuse as abuse, not as a “different kind of love”. Another thing I don’t like is thinking there’s room for redemption between the r*pist and the victim. Or the victim of sexual assault being anything but traumatized.

If you’re bored of fluff, and like the forcefulness in sex, why not have it be r*pe play? So without it being assault, it’s actually consensual role playing. What’s boring about that? If you like toxicity, why take away the seriousness and instead romanticize it?

Here’s what I’d like to see instead:
- a redemption story of a former abuser AFTER leaving the relationship to let the victim heal and move on.
- a victim w ptsd and all sorts of mental health issues healing and finding a green flag.
- have it so that the author isn’t shoving it to my face saying this is supposed to be a love story.

Anyways, that’s my personal take, but what’s yours?