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Second-hand embarassment
What do you do when you did or said something and then you feel second-hand embarassment? How do you make that feeling of shame go? Same question when you feel guilt, how do you make that feeling go away?
Second-hand embarrassment is when ur embarrassed by something someone ELSE says/does. Just fyi.
But when I embarrass myself I just remember there are SO many ppl below me in this world. No matter how embarrassing I might be, there are people out there who are straight up retarded and delusional and ugly and people still love them. So I'm good. 1 reply
I once sang at a flag ceremony (involuntarily), but they made the pitch way too high for me — so it was unbearing to hear. Mind you, I have some old talking stages there, and I had to sing with a sore throat. My coping mechanism? I cried. LMFAOOKOK I'm still confused if you meant secondhand or first hand.. Oh well !! ^_^ 1 reply
sometimes I still lay awake at night thinking about the embarrassing things I did lol. Just find something to take your mind off of it, it will always be there at the back of your mind so the best thing u can do is to ignore it reply
I just cringe, tell the story to a friend, cringe again and hope I never have to intersect in life with anyone who was witness to my embarrassment. reply
That's first hand but I just tell myself "people will forget and die too someday." cus I mean, it doesn't matter. Why they holding to that memory? Worry about your finances gurl and not my pants being ripped off during a dance. 1 reply
when i get second hand embarrassment i kind of remember that we are all humans and probably alot of ppl went through this but guilt oh baby no. guilt is stuck with me till death if i forget about for a couple of days/weeks/years/ it comes back to hunt me down in the worst ways possible and i crash out about it! reply
Well I'm guessing you mean first hand ? If so I had a couple embarrassing moments and what helped me is to literally be like I'll never meet these people again and probably they'll forget about it since it's such an insignificant thing and also everyone does embarrassing stuff all the time so yea no biggie ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭ reply