gay man fetish, is it true?

I get that there are def women out there that do partake in a gay man fetish that definitely invalidate gay men with their yaoi and shit but does that mean every yaoi reader (yes i mean you) is a gay man fetishizer? Because I know and see so many men read and consume yaoi like its nothing and we're all chilling. Like for my personal experience, im queer and i only read yaoi because i like the stories/art styles and men on the more submissive side (istg ive read all the femdom out there and majority of them are so trash and SA shit) and aren't really attracted to gay men as a concept? like the thought is really bizarre to me and i think this is the same reason for many other women. I dont really get this gender wars thingy that happening especially online between gay men and straight women when in real life people are so chill about it. Like i get that there is bara and yaoi, but lets be honest we're both reading that shit. I dont know, let me know your thoughts

btw, as someone who has been wlw, if you askd me what i thought about straight men fetishizing lesbians and making porn comics out of it, i would ask where those porn comics are IF YK RIGGHH
but honestly, this doesnt mean i condone fetishing a group of individuals youre not apart of, its just it gives me mixed feelings. i dont know i need to sleep lmk your thoughts