!!A concerned teenager!!

I read a lot of different types of stories like, BL, GL, shoujo, or shonen ( mainly the BL genre tho ) and have considered my self as a "fujoshi" for a long time. But recently, I've seen people people talking about how it is bad being a fujoshi and that if you use the term, it means that you fetishize gay men and it is disrespectful to the LGBTQ+ community. I don't really like the sound of that because I have a few friends that take part in that community. It makes me really guilty and scared, what should I do?

I know that the genre BL can also be divided into shounen ai or yaoi, while I do read both, reading those hardcore stuff was often use to relief stress, ( like how other people watch porn or read hentai ) but now it is concerning me if it is even okay for me to do this anymore.