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I need something off my chest
So I am currently 17 and a female and I have my 2 very strict parents, I have always been "taught manners" the hard way usually with my dad hitting me and ngl but I was a pretty stubborn child but I was always treated harshly lemme go into detail: like once when I denied eating food (in grade 1or 2) they starved me for like 5 days only giving me tiki packets to just barely eat and water was free to drink anytime or when I would cry because my friends used to leave me they would shut me instead and when I couldn't eat my potatoes ( which is why I now hate chewing sounds)for dinner they would foise me to eat it ending me throwing it all up and I was also slow in studies as a kid but was never diagnosed with anything (I used to write words in mirror form sometimes) and as I grew up I also grew to be irritated and annoyed I still have focusing issues and because I talked to a guy once my dad hit me with a thick plank and it was bleeding from the inside and I had to take care of it myself and because of me talking to this boy I was removed from therapy (which they said that all signs of me were pointing to C PTSD) not to mention my mom snitches on me for misbehaving with her to him (he is abroad) which results him saying things like he doesn't care if I die or he will throw me out himself and that I will have to satisfy people as a prostitute (which is why I don't feel comfortable with him anymore) and recently because of my misbehaving with my mom which again was not that of a low scale from my side either (I was not holding back) and she recorded my argument from her phone and sent it to him and because of that he called and I ran to my bathroom and hid and he was shouting from the phone to throw her out I dong want her due to which I slept on the cold floor for 2 days, I also had a panic attack during this , and because all of this I'm always hyperviligent and on alert ( I have to turn on my fan in winters because I need background noise) and never feel like I could relax but after seeing videos on yt like imagine a kid with a trauma close to war vets I think I'm so foolish for thinking I'm at their level please someone tell me if I'm wrong.(They did more but this is the short version)
Your parents are abusive and any response you have is completely valid abuse especially from childhood can just be traumatic as war even more so especially as you develop has a big impact on how you’re able to understand and contextualise events when you’re older. I just want you to know that you don’t deserve it and as soon as you’re old e...... 5 reply
Your parents are not strict. They're abusive to you!!!!!!
These comments have good suggestions, so I'll add in that Reddit can be a good/helpful forum site if you want to delve into specific situations on what to do, how to get help, find your country's helplines and legal laws, etc. (Assuming you never heard of Reddit before)
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You may not have the trauma level of a war vet but you are definitely for sure more traumatized than the average individual. Depending on your situation, realistically, it may be a very very long journey until you liberate yourself, but until then, stay strong and carve out a path for yourself to have a peaceful life away from your family, and that...... 1 reply
The duty of parents is to keep their children safe, not to abuse and torture them.
Your parents are a failure as human beings.
I sadly assume, that your parents were also treated with violence by their parents. So maybe they think, violence/torture/abuse is normal.
You are living in a war.
You need to escape.
I don't know, in which country you a...... 2 reply
Girl ur parents are abusive, the only advice i can give u now to study properly so u can get good job and move out of ur parents house as fast as u can,i will pray for u to have a good future, u r very strong girl ,sorry i am not very good at expressing my feelings 1 reply
Growing up and before I was independent enough to get therapy (DBT Group therapy and individual therapy), I found a lot of comfort and support from the RBN (raised by narcissists) Reddit.
Your feelings are 100% valid and that is 100% definitely abuse and neglect. I'm sorry for what you went through and continue to go through. Keep holding on - lif...... 3 reply
