How does one get genuine and actual friends?

I think im the problem here, so im genuinely asking how do you keep being friends with your friends. I tried making friends in highschool but we grew apart and we really don't like talking much to each other because I wasn't as talkative back then. Online people just keep ghosting you even though I thought y'all wanted to be friends, am I boring bc I don't do cool stuff ಥ_ಥ, especially on discord, like whaaa... I try to follow the convo and talk but they just straight up ignore newbies and have their own little social bubble. Then in college, my supposed "friends" only talk to me when they need something from me. Is it wrong to be overly talkative? It that the problem? Should I be more reserved and quiet? Bruh Idk anymore, im just going to stop tryin and just start acting like im chatting with people in my notes app.