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I need advice pls and thank you in advance
Because I really have no where else to turn to and posting publicly on the internet makes me anxious but y’all are kind of chill here so here I am: So some years ago I moved counties for university, my first year was cool and I made 2 friends and met other acquaintances through them. It’s 3 years into my degree and I realized over the years I have less and less friends around me that I can decide to go see or hang out with without needing to get on a train to go to a whole different city 3-4h away. My friends from first year either transferred or we stopped talking bc I got blocked for reasons idk till today and as much as I love those friends in other cities they have their own friends and from their own countries of which I’m not a part of. I feel welcomed and I participate but it’ll never be the same as being one of them, you get? I love people from my country but a lot of them are religious fanatics who want “equally yoked” friends, every time I’ve been approached by people from my country it’s always to be invited to their church. The most normal interaction I’ve had so far are with Muslim girls from my country but I just can’t deal with religious people. I’m queer and trans (maybe idk for sure yet) and I don’t want to have to deal with all that after finally leaving my homophobic ass country. I don’t want to feel like I’m not fully understood by the friends who also live really far away or find friends around me from my own community who wouldn’t accept the full me. The real option would be to find new friends and start building my own community ig but idk where to start, I’m not a non sociable person but leaving my house to places other than my usual (i.e school and the grocery store) fills me with so much anxiety and dread i just want to stay in my bed all day (it’s also cold asf outside). I know comparison is the thief of joy but I’ve met a number of people since I moved and seeing everyone travel or with their own friends and community or just out and about by themselves trying things makes me feel like I’m failing at this uni abroad thing. I have tried to download apps to find friends but there are rarely any people in my city on those apps since I don’t live in the capital city. I’m a broke student (bc ofc) who spend all my free time indoors when I’m not in class or at work. Blah blah blah Any advice for your girl?? Boy?? Fully autonomous human being. Thank you!! Xoxo(￣∇￣")
The best in between is finding a very culturally diverse friend group. With university is more just engaging at random with things you have in common yk
Also hobby related stuff in general?? I have befriend people in my city bc we followed eachother's niche socials or also from going to public meet ups related to it
Or get yourself a hobby that req...... reply
Okey so…as someone in second year of uni. With my first year being absolutely horrid, like no social life or anything and made 2 friends that I don’t talk much to I shall highlight the mistakes I did before. Right now my social life and friends are at peak, I’m having so fun meeting with so many people and just talking weekly. Honestly it’s...... reply
Id love to help, but too lazy to read this whole ass novel. So please can you summarize the question? Sorry if this sounds rude but i got confused mid reading the story so i stopped reading midway hehe
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Join some clubs or find hobby groups in your area. The inconvenient truth is that you won't find community hiding under the blankets. You'll need to find a way to get comfortable going places. Uni clubs may be a good place to start for you since they usually meet on campus. You're not the only person afraid of going to new places so you'll surely f...... reply
But what kind of advice are you seeking for? You must’ve gone through so much. Well, you can start by joining an international GC. I’ve tried it before, but it’s hard to find someone you can humor with, and you gotta be careful who you chat with. But really though, you just have to be your authentic self until you meet someone you can be with...... reply
I’m not sure about what country you’re in, but developing a solid social network takes time and patience no matter where you are. You’re not the only person feeling isolated, and it helps to know that. The best thing I can tell you to maybe help with the anxiety is to keep doing the things that make you anxious. I know that seems counterintu...... reply
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As someome who struggled/still struggles socially and currently in a career path that requires good connections, I'm going to tell you it's going to be hard at first, but that's just what making an effort means.
1. Talk to people in your classes: Not everyone is going to reply or actually be interested in you as a person or a potential friend...... reply
