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I wanna keep this short because i feel so idk overwhelmed and this makes me go non verbal but i desperately need to tell this. Ok my home situation is like the rapunzel. Thats literally it. My mom never lets me go out unless its with her or my older brother. I lost so many (you wont believe how many) friendships because of this shit. One friendship that i have isnt even as deep because we never get to hang out much at all. I have a boyfriend who lives about 40 minutes away. We planned to meet on sunday but unfortunately my mom happened and i told him we had to cancel. I felt so fucking guilty and upset and unfair that i came along with this buggage. It isnt fair for him. Hes sweet and patient yes but after a while he messaged saying hes also upset and wants to talk. I feel myself withdrawing and becoming avoidant. I dont wanna talk. I just want to sleep. I give up at this point. For once i thought i could go out like a normal girl but suddenly my mom happened. Ps i will be turning 23 this year.
Rebel the fuck out girl, rebel like you mean it and do it till she accepts the fact you're a fucking adult who has her own right to do whatever the hell she wants 1 reply
Hey guys OP here. I spoke to him and i feel a lot calmer now and ready to talk. I’m Indian and culturally its basically impossible to move out at my age. Thanks for those who said i need to gets my needs met first. I will be working on getting a job that gets me out of the state and out of obligation my mom will not have any control over this (th...... 3 reply
You're a whole adult, yes rebel like what the other person said cus genuinely this is just too much. You're 23. You're a grown adult who doesn't need some kind of time curfew or what to hang out with people
Stand your ground, it'll keep being like this if you don't and I understand it's scary for you but you're now an adult. Your mom is way too c...... reply
You are 23, why haven't you moved out yet? Your mother's not gonna change and the more you stay with her, the worse your mental health and life is going to become. Take it from a survivor, get you bank account in order on the sly, make preparations (lodging, safety, food etc), see if you can get a job and move the f out. Don't tell her before you d...... 1 reply
Girl. You're a full grown adult with a right to vote. Move the fuck out. Get a part time job or something under the pretense of "wanting to chip in" in the household and save enough to move out, maybe get a room in a hostel or something First then rent a room. It's gonna be hard and tough, but it'll probably be better than living like this. reply
I don't know your situation, so I won't be making assumptions. Are you currently studying/working remotely and is there a way for you to move out for studies or job purposes? Is there anyone trustworthy enough irl you can share this with, who can possibly help you out (this includes law enforcement, depending on your local laws)? You are at an age ...... reply
I don't know which culture or country you're from. But I have been in your place once. I would advise you to not rebel or oppose suddenly. It's still your family and not authority figures and I have no idea what your mother might do or react after losing that authority suddenly. Secondly, I am well aware how exhausting it might be for you to not be...... 1 reply
Hi yeah controlling behavior like that is abuse. Period.
Also, you’re an adult. You can get out now.
If you’re really desperate take yourself to a hospital and do one of he mental health check-ins. The hospital might have resources I don’t know about, and some places might need some kind of medical note to get in. At the very least it can c...... reply
