help me pls

Sooo... I have this crush and last month we somehow got married on Discord- and we have children but thing is during the time I proposed to my crush on Discord I officially asked them out but they didn't exactly reject me but told me they weren't ready for a relationship... and recently they did this Q&A on their instagram story and one of the questions they were asked was "What's your status relationship" and my crush responded with "I have a wife (AKA me)" and also putting "Taken, i guess to put it short" and now I'm literally confused if we're actually together- cause I thought we agreed that we weren't dating but just getting married jokingly and I literally don't know what we are to each other anymore