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GUILTY FOR UNRECIPROCATING
Has anyone else felt like, super guilty about not reciprocating someone's feelings? This guy has liked me for a few yrs now, he's currently my friend but I don't reciprocate his feelings at all. I've been careful when interacting with him and I also rejected him 2x already and recently I saw him put smt in his discord bio about wanting love and I feel so guilty.
I suppose I don't feel guilt about not feeling the same way because I know you can't force feelings but I feel guilt about the outcome. I wish he can find somebody who loves him soon. It'll help if you guys could share your stories even if it's only remotely connected to my situation.
Im also getting close with another guy now so I feel a bit guilty whenever he sees us on call together (we're on the same server) and we're also matching pfps so I could just about imagine how he feels. I care about him immensely, however Im just not interested in him romantically. Ive been very careful about this topic, I don't spend time with him...... reply
you do not owe anyone a rewiring of your heart just because they handed you theirs. you rejected him already and it was his choice to continue to pursue you, he's supossed to know at this point that your feelings wont change, but he's foolish enough to continue, if needed, tell him straight up again for the last time and set a straight boundary. if...... reply
Well, I've been kinda in both sides so I understand how this all feels. You don't have to feel guilty if you don't feel the same way, the guy just has to move on. There's like thousands and millions of people, he's gonna find someone else he'll like. You don't need to feel saddened if you don't really love them back or don't want to date them. Like...... reply
I’ve never felt guilty for not reciprocating their feelings. Besides I often turned them down the moment they said they like me.
We don’t owe them anything. For as long as you’re very clear that you don’t like them and have rejected them, there’s no reason for you to feel that way. reply
Yes, I feel guilty and pressured. Like when the guy is in the same friend group and everyone knows he has a crush. I get pressured. It's been 1-2 years he's consistent but I don't regret rejecting him.
I do feel guilty but my friends would tell me that get to know him like bla bla. It comes to the point that I feel pressured that I should get to...... reply
My own experience rejecting guys: I felt both flattered and quite guilty as you said, because I could see how much expectations they had going on in their mind. Now, these aren't things to dwell on. The person being rejected has to mourn their expectation and go forward. It's the only reasonable outcome. You rejecting them isn't a bad thing nor a p...... reply
