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Has anyone else felt like, super guilty about not reciprocating someone's feelings? This guy has liked me for a few yrs now, he's currently my friend but I don't reciprocate his feelings at all. I've been careful when interacting with him and I also rejected him 2x already and recently I saw him put smt in his discord bio about wanting love and I feel so guilty.

I suppose I don't feel guilt about not feeling the same way because I know you can't force feelings but I feel guilt about the outcome. I wish he can find somebody who loves him soon. It'll help if you guys could share your stories even if it's only remotely connected to my situation.

This is a general question btw with no ill intent to the cast and fandom itself.

I've been an on and off fan of one piece for a few years now and I've avoided OPLA religiously because LAs are often disappointments (looking at Kuroshitsuji, AOT, DBZ, ATLA...) and I admittedly am one of those people who are very picky and sensitive when it comes to adaptations of their fav works. I've seen the casting choices and I felt disconcerted about the portrayals of some of my favorite characters but I kept it to myself and just didn't engage.

I've been keeping my peace until recently when my room mate started watching it. I got forced to watch it because she always starts when I start preparing dinner and the kitchen area directly faces the living room TV. It was fine at first but as time went on I felt like the work I came to love so much became more and more... Idk, smudged? It didn't feel right to me. The deviations, random changes, acting choices, certain casting choices etc. it felt like I was watching a role play.

I won't get into detail about the things I disliked since it might start unnecessary drama but I genuinely need advice on how to remove myself from this headspace, every time I think about it, it bugs me. Every time I come across clips of it (yes, somehow it started invading my feed too.) I feel even more distaste for it. I even found out that actors for some of my fav characters are asscheeks. It sucks. I don't even want to care about it but I just keep doing it unconsciously and making myself suffer. What do I do help

I met this handsome guy through a mutual friend, I'm at that certain point in my life where I'm feeling the need to settle down and get into a relationship so when I met him ofc he peaked my interest. He's a good looking guy, tall, has the same interests as me and we've even VCed together for hrs after all our other friends fell asleep and we sometimes talk all day in dms.

The thing is, I can usually tell if a guy is interested in me, and all of those times I suspected it, I was right. He on the other hand, doesn't exhibit most of the signs indicating it. Even if he does he also does it to his other friends which makes me think he's just that type of guy. It's not like I fell for him at first sight or something like that, Im just interested because we do have a lot of things in common and he's a pretty good guy. Outside of that I still do want to be friends with him so like, idk if I should continue harboring such feelings/thoughts with the prospect of him someday liking me back if I do pursue him or just give it up and be friends (I don't constantly think abt feelings so)

He definitely treats me a bit differently than our other friends, like he's more attentive when they talk/ he banters better with them, but that may just be bc I'm the only other woman in our circle aside from the 2 girls the other 2 guys in our circle are courting and he's usually goofing around with the dudes. We also do joke and banter around together and talk for hrs but that's when they're gone and it's only us two or one other person.

That being said I heard some guys act more restrained with girls they're interested in or are more careful with what they say to them so like, idk?? (Btw he only met those friends around the same time as me)

Man its my first time feeling like this so I need some advice.

I'm not even joking, this is especially evident in Genshin, HSR, etc., my friend who draws GORGEOUS fanart of her fav ships finally had the courage to open her own public art account a few weeks ago and she already got tons of hate for shipping Neuvilette x Navia and Wriothesley x Chlorinde from Wriolette shippers. She even got sent death threats for it, and mind you my friend is a pretty meek person so she took a huge hit from it and hasn't been able to draw for a while now. Honestly let's be real in shipping repression is reversed. I get it, people want to see men kissing all the time me too, but it's so infuriating when I see the double standards. Ive seen so many people condone shipping male characters with set female partners to their bestfriends it other friends but when it's two male characters not canonically tied to one another but are close and one of them gets shipped to a woman everyone's going feral saying it's homophobia. I'm not hating, but please understand my position as someone who just witnesses my close friend harassed over a straight ship for no reason. A Wriolette shipper even called her a pedophile??? I don't get that one because if it's NeuviNavia they're talking about because Neuvilette is an old dragon then isn't Wriolette too?? I'm so confused.

We had this topic in class today and it made me think a bit. How come people are able to be enthusiastic about the horrors committed to others? (True crime enthusiasts) How come million of people can watch people from war torn countries beg for their help and do nothing but say they feel for them? How does our indifference harm us as a society?