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I feel worse for women when theyre in a relationship with a secretly gay man.
I'm sorry, I've been rereading the summer hikaru died and it's so obvious the father is gay and everytime people in the fandom talk about it it's all "poor him" "doomed yaoi with hikarus dad" but what about the woman being deceived? What about the woman giving HER body to bring children into the world with a man who is LYING to her. Im sorry but if you're a grown man you have to either decide to stay single or cut off your family and go live your gay man life leave women alone. Obviously I feel sympathy for them but c'mon even if you don't wanna come out just stay single.
People just don't think that you can sympathize with both. The woman isn't the problem here, nor the man. You can feel bad for both. We can't also blame the closet man here cause they're also pressured to settle down and have a family but just not as much as women do. It isn't easy for them to stay single because of Homphobia and how in some countr...... reply
Thank you for raising this point. Its so hard for ppl to sympathize with women. Like I understand their concern but give girles some love too. A lot of ppl are so ready to demonize women without a second thought is annoying. But yeh I wholly agree with you. reply
This is just my opinion and view of of these Dynamics and situations:
This is a very sensitive topic because people will
rather prefer to sugarcoat or equalize, even if the scale isn't the same for being closeted when you're a gay man versus a woman. And the deception of marrying someone who doesn't love you. You never want to villainize someone r...... reply
You can feel how you want, but this feels like an over correction in response to the sympathy people have towards gay men. No party is more pitiful than the other, women who get into loveless marriages are already following the contract for cishet monogamy. It's standard, not something extra heinous. It's a sad situation on both sides, yes, but tha...... 2 reply
I'm happily married to a man who comes from that type of background. 25+ years happily together. He's always teased me, calling me his perfect man. :) It is possible. reply
Stay single is best option instead of marrying as a cover. But humans use and abuse each other constantly, all for selfish reasons due to their flaws and thru outside pressure and they are weak to change and take a stand for their own path or more so they opt to take down another with them. People ruin others lives consistently on this planet. reply
The obsession with who has it worse is just a byproduct of hyperconsumerism, but don't let me stop you.
You can pity the gay guy and the straight woman, it's not really that big of a deal. Nor do I honestly think you should feel worse for either, they're in different situations and have different feelings about this.
If you do feel 'worse' that's...... 1 reply
