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How to gentle parent an asshole?
My brother's girlfriend (27) sucks but he's got mommy issues so I gotta be nice to her or I'll won't see him as often cause she'll avoid me and he's her slave. I have to be nice to her but she says horrible things and I feel like it's disrespectful to my values to ignore. Whether it's bullying her mom into drunk driving to get her ice cream at 1am or calling girls sl*ts and wh*res because she's insecure about her body. (not an assumption, she said she was insecure before insulting these women for an hour) I am disappointed I just stayed silent and didn't react at all when this happened last time but I've never stood up for my beliefs before. I don't like that about myself and I want to change and this is a good opportunity to practice.
How do I casually and calmly correct someone without making them hate me? It's mostly for myself and the people around us because I don't think she'll ever change.
Honestly maybe the only way to do it in this kinda situation would be to approach the next time with "genuine curiosity", as in when she says stuff like that to be like "oh why do you think that?" and just keep questioning whatever she says and show the fallacies in her logic. But i would talk in a genuinely confused tone so she can't act like you'...... 1 reply
Staying quiet once doesn’t make you fake. Sometimes you freeze or don’t react because it’s not worth the drama. But if ignoring it clearly isn’t sitting right with you, that’s your sign you know it was wrong and you don’t wanna keep letting that bs slide. You don’t gotta argue with her or try to change her, but you can call it out whe...... reply
Talk to your brother. Tell him first that you want to do this and that, he should know how and can give you an insight how to deal with her girlfriend or if you can correct his girlfriend. Don’t casually correct his girlfriend coz she might twist the truth and will get offended and make you the bad guy.
If he gives you the signal, find the oppo...... reply
tbh i have never been in situation like this and it must suck having her close to you (via brother) all the time
i personally would avoid her at all cost and wont stir any unnecessary drama but i can tell you are fed up by her behaviour... i think it's for the best to let her be and try to ignore her... i know its hard but that would be the health...... 1 reply
