YAOI cliches

Firat of all, I want to clarify that I'm not insulting the whole YAOI genre.
I'm a hardcore fujoshi myself and I've been reading it for more than 10 years.
But I'm getting sick of this YAOI cliches that are FAR TOO UNREALISTIC..
I'm not saying that this applies to all YAOI mangas but it sometimes become a pattern in some.
I just want to enumerate them and get it out of my system.

1. If one of the family turns out to be gay then the rest would follow (the father, the younger or older brother, the cousin, the uncle)
2. Rape isn't considered a bad thing... I hate how the victim isn't showing any signs of being traumatized but instead falls in love with the rapist.
3. All of the Uke/Seme's MALE circle of friends and acquintances start to fall in love with him. Its a LA LA LAND of gay.
4. Having sex in public places and people just magically disappear...

Haha.. With all thats been said...
I still like YAOI and I will continue reading them..