Is sex overrated?

If it's done mainly for pleasure, how is it any different to masturbation? Anw, I don't find most of the smut that I've read so far "romantic", it's mostly erotic and messy. Idk it mostly reminds me of hentai.

If possible, you can also recommend me works that you think has "romantic" smut. Thanks

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