I have this one male friend who I recently became "friends" with.. and at first I felt bad cuz he kept emphasizing the fact that he's so grateful that I'm talking to him, and etc, but dude. I finally understand why he has a hard time making friends. It's cuz this dude is so self centered, that EVERYTHING I say is like.. dismissed. I'm the only one who actually replies back on whatever topic he says, but when I say something, he doesn't even respond or just give a half ass response. And now ur over here crying about being lonely and can't make friends??? Like be srs now. Like, I am a yapper myself. But if the conversation is just about u, u, and u. Then dude, do not expect anyone to actually wanna be friends with u lol
Well, imo it's kinda like a two way thing, you're right when you say most people with shitty personalities are justifiably lonely. But there are some folks who maybe lack communication skills or are just different and that's why it's harder for them to make friends. Maybe you could someday point out this problem to him and explain that it's the reason he barely has friends. .maybe he doesn't even realize he has such trashy conduct
Mb, I should've given more context. The reason why I am upset with him is the fact that he's FULLY aware as to why he has no friends. I always encourage him to keep trying, and then he would just shut me down by stating something very discouraging, or not replying at all. I even pointed out to him that he has this antisocial vibe, and that he should try to reply to my messages, instead of ignoring it. We even fought one time cuz of his behavior, and it worked but then he's yet again back to his usual behavior. And I feel bad, cuz he would say that knows he should try to be nice and how grateful he is that I'm patient with him, so I keep trying to still be friends with him. Despite this, he still ignores whatever I'm saying and only talks about whatever he wants lol I tried ignoring his messages one time, and he immediately understand why I did so. We have a lot of talks about his behavior, but nothing seems to be working when he himself doesn't even try to, or at least he only tries for like a week and then stops. Mind u, it's not as if I am forcing him to talk or anything. I just say good morning, and then he immediately yaps about anything and I just try to listen, and add a bit of comment here and there. I alrdy made it clear to him that if I'm bothering him with my greetings/invitations, he can always reject. He fully knows that I'm literally only just a friend who's there for him to practice, but he just loses himself ig.
Mb, I should've given more context. The reason why I am upset with him is the fact that he's FULLY aware as to why he has no friends. I always encourage him to keep trying, and then he would just shut me down b... YoBologna
Att this point, I have only one thing to say: Don't bother or stress yourself too much for someone who's like that, you've done your best and tysm for clarifying
Att this point, I have only one thing to say: Don't bother or stress yourself too much for someone who's like that, you've done your best and tysm for clarifying readerXwriterfujo
Yup! I'm just basically just there to listen to him now lol He's a grown man(not trying to shade him by calling him old btw), I'm sure he'll work it out himself someday.
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Well, imo it's kinda like a two way thing, you're right when you say most people with shitty personalities are justifiably lonely.
But there are some folks who maybe lack communication skills or are just different and that's why it's harder for them to make friends.
Maybe you could someday point out this problem to him and explain that it's the reason he barely has friends. .maybe he doesn't even realize he has such trashy conduct
Mb, I should've given more context. The reason why I am upset with him is the fact that he's FULLY aware as to why he has no friends. I always encourage him to keep trying, and then he would just shut me down by stating something very discouraging, or not replying at all. I even pointed out to him that he has this antisocial vibe, and that he should try to reply to my messages, instead of ignoring it. We even fought one time cuz of his behavior, and it worked but then he's yet again back to his usual behavior. And I feel bad, cuz he would say that knows he should try to be nice and how grateful he is that I'm patient with him, so I keep trying to still be friends with him. Despite this, he still ignores whatever I'm saying and only talks about whatever he wants lol I tried ignoring his messages one time, and he immediately understand why I did so. We have a lot of talks about his behavior, but nothing seems to be working when he himself doesn't even try to, or at least he only tries for like a week and then stops. Mind u, it's not as if I am forcing him to talk or anything. I just say good morning, and then he immediately yaps about anything and I just try to listen, and add a bit of comment here and there. I alrdy made it clear to him that if I'm bothering him with my greetings/invitations, he can always reject. He fully knows that I'm literally only just a friend who's there for him to practice, but he just loses himself ig.
Att this point, I have only one thing to say: Don't bother or stress yourself too much for someone who's like that, you've done your best and tysm for clarifying
Yup! I'm just basically just there to listen to him now lol He's a grown man(not trying to shade him by calling him old btw), I'm sure he'll work it out himself someday.