Please I am begging

Idk, I just keep droppin manhwas left and right, I had stopped reading bl for the very reason because I felt like everything was turning super bland. But I couldn't get into het stuff and I did restart some old manhwas but they had nothing to do with romance. I want a manhwa that has romance in it but it isn't the sole focus of the story, all the bls I land on make me wanna pull my hair out because somehow they end up with each others cocks in their mouths within like the first 2 chaps. I started reading shounen ai but I kept wanting some sexual scenes to take place between them. It's so hard to tell what I am looking for but I can exactly tell which manhwas are not gonna be my cup of tea from the very few chaps I read. I am so frustrated. I keep getting bored of the sex in yaoi tagged manhwas but I want more of it when it's a shounen ai. I will tell you I really liked 19 days, Like I haven't read that shit in ages but I can tell I will still like it if I read it now. The chemistry is just top notch, and its a shounen ai. Guys I want a plot heavy book but don't want to be starved of sexual scenes but they should feel organic and not forced, or like even if there are no sex scenes, the sexual tension should have me giggling and kicking my feet. I remember reading non bl, non romance manhwas and wanting to ship the chars so bad because they would have really been perfect if ithad been a bl that is. Do I make sense?