Phrases i heard this week that made me angry

" you don't have a man who controls you" , this is an insult in this damn culture, yes it is , just imagine hearing two people fighting then one of them says this to the other woman , and just to let you know this is worse than saying whore or something, there was this time when my mother was arguing with this woman and the other said " you don't have a man who controls you, you do whatever you want" , and mom said " how dare you, you don't have a man who controls you!!" , lol
" She's pretty even though she's black" yes i hear this all the time and it doesn't really need context, you know what needs context? It's when a child gets raped and you hear everyone normally saying " poor thing, her future is gone now, just think about ( a sad face )
And there's my favorite : " Why the fuck did you cross that road, it was a woman who was driving this car , She'll probably run you over on purpose , I bet she thinks it's cool that she's driving a car WHILE being a woman " , my mother said this when i crossed the road because the driver let me , of course she was a woman and my mother said that
This is hell