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many people need to work on their reading, writing, and emotional regulation skills. many people have grown up in or grown used to a social media environment that favors quick responses and a "hit first and hard" mentality. in comparison, it takes much more effort to think through a position or argument and then present it intelligibly to another ......   reply

hard out here for people who want more thrills and action than slice-of-life but don't find the threat or spectacle of sexual violence all that compelling. nothing but stock characters, dynamics, and plots...   reply

it's amazing how people who say "don't like, don't read" never seem able to apply it to comments they don't like and conversations they never want to have. that line only applies for stuff like fanfics and some other fanworks where hate and other reactions are a direct engagement with the work in question (comments under a fic, replies/quotes to a ......   reply

regardless of everything else, in the moment, he had physical (close, intimate contact, in a vulnerable position) and emotional leverage (you didn't want to disappoint or "lead him on") over you to get what he wanted despite your wishes. consent is ongoing and revocable. if person A and person B agree to do actions 1, 2 and 3, that does not mean ......   reply

by all means, let's push back against things that normalize sexualizing children, so this isn't to say that you shouldn't criticize the release of anime/manga featuring loli/shota content. I'm in full agreement with that sentiment. that said, the birth rate issue is more a consequence of lack of support for mothers/families, work culture, economic ......   1 reply

a flag is a communication tool. a basic and common function is signalling if a path is clear (green) or obstructed/hazardous (red). imo, many people are using "flags" weirdly because it makes more sense to apply it to behaviors and attitudes rather than to a person or character as whole. that's how I saw the concept used, initially, anyways. it ove......   1 reply

it's not gonna ruin my day or damage my mental state to read something with rape/SA in it, but I'm always going to question its inclusion in ostensibly "romantic" stories, even if it's about criminals and villains because the grand majority of the time, rape/SA is included in BL for cheap thrills, titillation and as a relationship catalyst or short......   reply

I'm aware of BL's shoujo roots, so the pretty boys came with the genre, and I don't have a problem with men being pretty or soft or beautiful instead of handsome. I do have a problem with the very narrow range of appearances that they're given. men have a range of appearances and body types, too. feminine men and twinks exist, and that's not an iss......   reply

not to the intensity of broken bones (which is too far for me) but both of these keep a sadomasochistic relationship throughout the story https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/yoru_wa_tomodachi/ this one starts out dodgy, but there is development https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/sneaky_red/ edit: I had links on here before, idk why this cut off weir......   2 reply

I feel you. it's not just that other people don't wanna think about anything critically or use their brains in general, they get mad at you for daring to use yours! I'm gonna keep writing my essays regardless.   reply

no, because I don't have any experience with intimate relationships. (that's up to my own orientation though) those stories (and fiction in general) aren't likely to have a direct effect on what people do in the form of imitation, especially when they're not children anymore. but they do influence how people think and talk about stuff and how they ......   reply

going off of what I was aware of back when the manga was getting more popular in English speaking spaces some years back, syundei is a victim of false advertising from the people hyping "go for it, nakamura-kun" at the time. it was being hyped as a wholesome rom-com type of thing, and a break from the super-dramatic, rape-y stuff out there. I had r......   1 reply

I pay for the stuff I like because I have the means to do that, and I want to support the creator to make more of it. but definitely with bl and other things, I'll take every opportunity to try before I buy. if the prevalence of certain tropes and themes is partly caused by market demand for them, I'll be sure to ensure that I'm not contributing to......   reply

https://m.tapas.io/series/Ride-or-Die/info https://linktr.ee/pasteliaent don't know the background of this creator, but it appears to be a more self-aware historical piece https://x.com/MeanFujoLesbian/status/2069623166113112319   reply

do you have any examples in mind? this kind of topic benefits from specificity, otherwise all I can say is "idk man, it depends". that said, complexity by itself is not a challenge to beliefs. complexity is just the level of detail or the number of factors to consider. the perception of complexity also depends on your existing level of knowledge an......   reply

from Ghana, but functionally american   1 reply

like perfection, it's an unnattainable goal to know everything, but it's one of those things where there's virtue and value in the undertaking. journey over destination, so to speak. take your learning opportunities where they come with an open, inquisitive, and curious mind(set). I'm all about reading, reading, reading. books, articles, etc. someo......   1 reply

any to be hero x fans out there?   2 reply

pretty sure it's an intentional marketing and editorial strategy to come up with the most mind-numbingly infuriating (or just irritating) plotlines along similar formulas to hook (ideally, paying) readers. low effort and risk, high reward. anger is a very effective emotional chord to play for driving continued engagement with a thing, as we can all......   1 reply