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I just remembered mangago has one, do you guys use it to find stories in genres you like and avoid genres you don't like. In bato I used the filter system and find one of my fav BLs. Using a manga filter system is actually really great to find the type of stories you want to read! (⌒▽⌒)

Also saying that logic > emotions. Why? Just Why? How does anybody benefit from that being decided? I'm so annoyed thinking about this after watching this one feminist vs anti feminist debate on YouTube people started bringing up how women are "too emotional", that's why a man is needed. Women aren't logical like men, or just straight up aren't logical. I want to go back in time and wring the neck of the person who felt men and women should be characterized like this, they should've just died or stfu!

What do you guys think of this ever being decided a thing? That women are "more emotional" and men are "more logical" as if that's a biological fact.

I know romance stories aren't seen as a guide to real life relationships and readers don't always see it as something they'd want to have for themselves, I'm just curious if there was anything you've read in your romance, like a gesture or a small thing/big thing that inspired you to want do something similar for your partner, if you were/are in a relationship.

For me, when I read BL, I really appreciate how it portrays men being vulnerable and cherished in ways that go against traditional gender roles. It’s made me want to express affection in similar ways like getting my partner flowers and doing other small cheesy gestures. I'm a single pringle though ╮(￣▽￣)╭

What about you guys?

If so, how do you think we should deal with it now? And if we don't do anything about it now, how do you think we will manage when it comes back to bite us in the future?

I want to live in a world like this. I don't like how certain things are seen as masculine and others as feminine. I think what masculinity is can encompass things about femininity and vice versa and by that point these terms shouldn't exist, because every trait should just be genderless and for anybody.

Now, I don't read this genre often/at all, but I want to express an opinion I have of it, and hoping those who have read more of this genre could weigh in why this opinion may not have the full picture. But my opinion is, I get really upset/sad when the original villain/villainess is just said or made out to be irredeemable, destined to just be immoral/bad and have their terrible end. I just feel like I don't care how impossible it is because of what they've done or how immoral it is to try and redeem them or have them be 'normal' after everything they've done, I just want them to have the same kind of journey/story the MCs got when those MCs reincarnated into their bodies. I don't like how the MC's get to have growth, love, a different treatment, whatever it is they get when they are reincarnated into these character's bodies, whiles those original characters themselves are just deemed or said to not be able to have that, they're just gone, just the original, just an 'outdated' version, here comes an 'improved, better version' with the MCs. I just don't like it :(

This though, is where I wonder if I don't have the full picture because of not reading a lot in this genre/trope. The only thing I've read that had this trope was SVSSS and even then I haven't read the novel, just watched the donghua and consumed some fan content. But I just felt so upset when the author said Shen Jiu, the OG Shen Jiu just wouldn't change. Like that's fine but I still want them to have a little in essence of what the MC got when he reincarnated into Shen Jiu's body, idk how that's suppose to look like I just want it And this then doesn't make sense bc I don't know what I want is supposed to look like! ╥﹏╥

I feel like the answer to this is similar to the answers I got from my other question here: "Why did the world ever say that women are more emotional than men and men are more logical?" But I'm curious on the insights you guys can give.

Also opinions on certain traits being labelled 'feminine' and others as 'masculine'?

When I was younger, I used to be scared that I would grow up and develop a mind like that of a cold, calculated murderer, not care for moral rules and just kill people. Used to be a very big fear of mine that I could turn out to be a depraved individual. I think it's still a big fear of mine.
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