catmom888's answer (12)

It's escapism babe the problem isnt the yaoi its whatever stressful situation you are needing to avoid. Maybe med school isnt what you really want to do? Need to reflect on what youre using yaoi to run away from.   1 reply

Can't speak from personal experience but one of my best friends is dating a masc woman and she is a sweet little cinnamon roll so I would guess don't listen to stereotypes   1 reply

I've been reading bl/shipping m/m characters in anime, tv shows, and games since I was in middle school 20 years ago. I enjoy bl because, beyond the fantastic storytelling and opportunities to see multi-dimensional male characters who fight with their feelings, I have personal insecurities and reading or watching too much m/f makes me think about m......   reply

Hello, college teacher here who teaches on sex and gender. People think sex (female/male) is binary but it's not. Biological sex is made up of many factors including chronosomes, hormones, reproductive organs, etc. Its not that you either have xx chromones, vagina, uterus, and estrogen OR you have xy, testes, penis, and testosterone. We actually al......   1 reply

With any addiction it comes down to if you are avoiding life or other obligations and you can't do anything unless you get your fix. I strongly recommend the book Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke. She is a therapist and writes about several different kinds of additions (from sex to drugs to romance novels) and what it means and how to manage. The ke......   1 reply

Non-Asian names. English, German, or French names just take me out of the story. I can't get over it.   reply

depressed (●'◡'●)ﾉ   1 reply

YES highly recommend and if you're gonna do it get someone specialized in cognitive behavioral therapy and trauma-informed therapy and not just talk therapy if you want to dig deep and really resolve issues. There are a ton of cool and effective techniques like brain spotting and EMDR that target specific memories/places in your brain that trauma i......   reply

I was thinking about this a few weeks ago. Is it because of the romance genre generally (like the girl is usually the mc in hetero romance stories) or is it something else?   reply

PhD student in liberal arts. I teach college for peanuts until i finish my dissertation and then I'll teach the same courses for 6x more money ️   reply

Came across a sora/riku kingdom hearts fan comic featured on the homepage of deviantart when i was in late elementary/early middle school and the rest was history. Got into fan comics/doujin, fan fic, and eventually bl manga and anime. Shout out to junjou romantica, first bl manga. still love it i just reread it last week lol   reply

You never know whether you're going to like something until you try it. You're getting a sample of what this life will be like and you're learning maybe it isnt your cup of tea anymore. At the end of the day, your friends and family arent the ones who will have to work the job you hate -- you will. So if you're seeing signs that this might not be s......   reply