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I have a bisexual friend and recently Billie Eilish has been “exposed” to have an alleged boyfriend which somehow people are mad about. I was discussing this reaction of others with my friend and she was really upset reading so many biphobic comments. Various people commented on variants of the “you're lying” rhetoric. It's almost like they feel betrayed that a bisexual woman picked a man, choosing to be straight rather than being with your own. (weirdly also has to do with feminism which I'll get into later) A very “it’s them or us” mentality, there's no in-between for them but that's what bisexuality is, you are in between two genders. Bisexual people are viewed as “less” gay than gay individuals, some even think they should be removed from the community. All of these notions fall into elitism. Elitism is the belief a group of people, the elite, should have more authority and influence because they are more likely to benefit society (the society being their community). They hate the oppressors and love the oppressed. They love pure gay people and hate the people that associate with the “enemy”. The people who associate with the “enemy” hurt their community because they're considered one of them. Lesbian and gay individuals are angry with bisexuals because they believe they can choose, to hide, escape, be a standard, to be straight. But is it a choice? By that logic, you can choose to not be gay then.


To ignore the factors of why most bisexual women tend to date men is ridiculous. A lot of women in society have been conditioned to be sitting ducks/prizes in the dating pool. You put on a nice dress, and some makeup, and hopefully, a man finds you pretty enough to ask you out. That's the position society puts women in. Role mothers, aunts, and other motherly figures push younger women into. Unfortunately, a lot of women even lesbian women have yet to come out of that mindset, especially in a hetero-normative society where hetero-normative rhetorics are pushed onto us no matter what women identify as. (of course, this isn't all women but I find that it's quite a bit of women…) men come up to women way more often than any woman would up to another woman. Hence they sometimes just tend to date men more often. Even bisexual women with the heaviest female lean I've seen have dated more men not because they're easier to date but because of a lack of opportunities with women. You could say why don't they go to gay clubs or whatever but remember the environment they may be subjected to. It's not uncommon for gay people to hide through straight relationships, it's odd that only bisexual people are demonized if they do it. They're not living as freely as you think.

Another reason is lesbianism is seen as being this radical feminist movement. If you date a man you're going against women apparently (insane). To them, you've failed to de-center men by being attracted and dating them(I've seen people say this….) But isn't that what you're doing? You're devaluing, and erasing the validation of bisexual women because they date men? It implies that a man can taint a woman, which contributes to the patriarchy. Ironic.

Elitism is singlehandedly destroying unity within all of these marginalized communities whatever the reason may be, it is embarrassing to witness. Complete idiocy. I could go on and on about elitism in different communities It is really pathetic and comes from insecurity about the authenticity of their own identity. How could someone that's half of what I am being considered on par with me? This is what their thought process sounds like to me. I feel like it gives them power within their community, a power they can't obtain outside of it. A weird form of purity that validates their oppression and invalidates others who don't meet their standard of purity. Idk maybe I'm crazy for thinking about it like this but I can't help but feel bad for my friend it's so horrible. Lemme know your thoughts, am I looking too deep into it

what are good sites for pirating anime?

the one ive been using since 2020 got wiped bro

Im scared guys it’s getting a little to crazy here for me. I don’t wanna get bombed and why does Iran keep tweeting those things I’m scared. I’m not built for a war I’m just a silly little gyaru teenage girl who wants to have her summer before anything serious happens. I genuinely feel so bad for the people in Palestine their fear must be a billion times more than what I’m feeling rn. But genuinely, if war starts, I’m dying right away I dont think I could successfully survive. And all of this is because of some fat rich men like, I’d rather kill myself than die because of them. Ok byeee!!!

It's uhh... 7 months, i think? I don't think I'm recovering any sooner. I'm kining Viktor so much i got asthma and back issues a month into the show(I didn't actually, it just escalated more cuz i refused to sit properly and i have unhealthy habits) I'm also trans.. which is awesome, heh.. and i picked the name Viktor. Watch me die to an explosion next then get revived into some weird arcane herald brah, I'll update soon:3

Pretty boys pmo so bad, everytime i see them, i get gender envy and an urge to punch their face. ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY STILL LOOK MASCULINE EVEN WITH LONG HAIR AGRHRGG. Brah, stop making me guess whether to use sir or ma'am and make out wit me

Nothin has so far tickled my pickle in this site as much as jayvik has... Sigh, I really need more dynamics like them, I'm sick and tired of seeing the same daddy seme and twink uke over and over again brah. I'm bout to combust. And if it's not daddy seme x twink uke, it's those weird ahh mafia boss titan looking ahh too I'm going back to my goonhaven (ao3)

i just need to get my thoughts out somewhere. many yaois revolve around themes that echo hallmarks of psychological thrillers: surveillance, secrecy, stalking, deception, emotional entrapment, and sexual assault. however, they're reinterpreted through a romantic lens. sex is a way of exerting power, control, obedience, and subjugation of (very often) more feminine persons, all while presenting it as desirable and a source of pleasure when in fact actual good, safe sex is far from what bl usually depicts it to be. bl then often makes the audience complicit, seduced into rooting for problematic characters or relationships. lack of communication, consent, and ideas of toxic masculinity are used to further relationships and are brushed past as something attractive and loving rather than abusive and creepy. sex becomes less a mutual act of connection and more a mechanism for asserting power, obedience, and subjugation - most often toward the more feminized character. i am talking very specifically about yaoi, and not shounen ai here, by the way, when i say that romantic tension often is indistinguishable from an undeveloped and forced sexual attraction. lack of communication, skewed power imabalnces, and rigid ideas of masculinity are not only central to the development of many yaoi pairings - they are portrayed as the very conditions under which love can flourish. romance is often merely the aesthetic of stories that are, at their core, about the commodification of vulnerability. scenes of non/dubcon are very common and are often depicted as the turning point where a resistant character (USUALLY the 'bottom') 'realizes' they want it after all. they are often pivotal to the 'romance' or narrative. it teaches a young or more impressionable audience that love can begin in violence, that no can mean yes, and that consent is a hurdle to be overcome rather than a foundation to be honored. the 'bottom' is watched, stalked, worn down, and remade—and we are asked to feel satisfaction when they finally submit. this is not just problematic—it is the architecture of a thriller. violence becomes tenderness and manipulation becomes love. predation and excessive possessiveness and controlling behavior becomes protection. this IS a psychological horror and thriller. there are very few BLs that lean into this to portray these dynamics as they truly are. the problem isn't that bl can be dark, or violent or messy - queer narratives, like all ones, should be allowed the complexity. HOWEVER, the issue is when violence is romanticized without interrogation and when dominance becomes the sole framework for intimacy. to say that much of yaoi is a masked psychological thriller isnt to dismiss the genre, but to call attention to the structures and patterns that underlie it, and to ask: what are we (as WOMEN especially, being the target audience) being made to desire? who does the story want us to root for, and why?
i also understand that BL/yaoi can be a reprieve from the objectification experienced in explicitly heterosexual media, and in no way am i trying to bash on anyone who enjoys or frequents yaoi. especially since for most women, theyre socialized in environments where sexuality is either policed or hyper exposed, so through yaoi readers can explore desire without the immediate personal identification or fear of violence that may accompany hetero narratives. yaoi also prioritizes emotional intensity, longing, and interiority. it destigmatizes sexual relations. the very reason this critique matters is bc readers care deeply about the stories they consume. they're not just escapist fantasies - they're maps of longing, identity, and emotional experimentation. in talking about yaoi, i just want to ask - 'what is this doing, and why does it feel so compelling?' how can we improves narratives from objectifying and commodifying vulnerability and femininity and queerness into something more empowering and outright critical of patriarchal norms? yeah sorry this was rly long.

This is specifically for Classic American Corn Dogs, but do yall cater to the pancake or the hot dog? Do you dip it in ketchup or syrup..or both? And what’s your favorite type of freak on a stick (corn dogs)

I only like Classic American, since it’s the only type I’ve tried, and I dip it in syrup.

Idk what's up with the selections of BL media here in mangago, why am i seeing another rise of the good ol fashioned piss kink again istg I've seen at least three covers where it's literally just a guy drenched in piss

Is it just me or when you go to top mangas and see popular mangas from old times make you feel nostalgia about that time ....(●￣(ｴ)￣●)

Anybody know of some good masc x fem yuri or a yuri where one of them is buff?

It’s so empty here and there’s nothing to do. I’m bored 24/7 and I live in a small tiny village and I’m so fucking bored. Anybody know of anything to do around here?

so I came across this prompt on TikTok

"create an image of what it feels like to chat with me everyday. be as honest as you can. or as brutal as you want" and ask them to explain their answer.

just for fun try it y'all and share what answers you got lol mine gave me a really cute one (づ￣ ³￣)づ

Pls help me, I read this bl manga before and I forget the name of it. Plsss help me find it again

The bottom is a demon while the top is a human (GOOD MAN) to be exact. The only thing I remember is that there is a chapter where the human died and the demon made a contract with the angel to revive the man in exchange he will come back to the heaven (he is a former angel). After being revived the man lose his memories with the uke but when he remembers the uke is already locked up in heaven. So the seme save the uke in heaven. The ending part is the demon waited for the human to die and be in hell, the human become a demon apprentice and they live O think happily ever after.

tfym WW3 is about start and people saying: my first world war
like tf

any personality deficits or toxic traits you guys are well aware of about yourselves but you either don't give a fuck about it or have long accepted it?

lmao, i don't make shit in my life any better so here i am trying to find people who are more toxic than me

I love the MC he's a big stupid cutie and every character is hot. I know its meant to be basically pure hentai but the lore is actually good

Per one series you're reading, you get $5 how much do you have?

I need your most heart wrenching music recs, like, Adrianne Lenker and Mitski type hurt.