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I need advice! [Answer]
da3rakun
20 07,2020
Thank you for all your reply. Before I posted this, I actually consulted with my friends first. They have different opinions than me. They want me to reconsider my decision and think about my mother's situation. My mother wasn't always mean. She just too stressed out sometimes and I don't understand her so we get into arguments then and now. They s......   4 reply
20 07,2020
I need advice! [Answer]
blacksheep512 20 07,2020
I assume you are Asian. Because I saw all the key words there: 'comparing daughters', 'obedient like a dog', 'lazy', 'unfilial' etc. These words also sound very familiar to me because my mum also nags at me like that and expects me to be obedient. I think in general, this is the way of upbringing by old-school Asian parents so I don't think you sho......   2 reply
20 07,2020
I need advice! [Answer]
aliciarune
20 07,2020
First thing is first, how are you lazy? You work a 9-6 job. You have a right to be tired and wanting to rest after coming home and having a calm weekend. I'm not saying it's good to sleep all day, but you are far from lazy friend. I will say, you and I have some similarities. I just turned 27 and live with my mom, and though we have fights, she doe......   reply
20 07,2020
I'm gonna need a little bit more context because I'm not sure what ABM stands for. I'm guessing a field in a business major? I'd first suggest that you take the thinking process about this slow and steady because the stress definitely won't help, been there, and hated it all. Look at what your program does in upper years, look at the kinds of cours......   1 reply
20 07,2020
I need advice! [Answer]
Jin 20 07,2020
It would help to know where you live, your religion, and your culture. If it's part of your religion, does this mean you and your parents are actively going to temple/church/mosque/synagogue? Is there a leader there that you can talk to regarding how badly you are treated at home? Someone who can sit your mother down and talk some sense to her o......   reply
20 07,2020
I need advice! [Answer]
ArandomBystander1
20 07,2020
I am not sure if I am the one to give advice but her it go’s. You should move out, do what makes you happy. As for your family they should know it’s not their life. It’s yours you can do whatever you want for your life. you can do it! And if your feeling down right now here’s a joke ( it a long one): A duck walks in the court room and th......   reply
20 07,2020
BL Discord [Question]
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20 07,2020
I really like sakura haruno but people just hate her too much.   1 reply
20 07,2020
orochimaru from naruto.. he’s funny af lmao   5 reply
20 07,2020
I need advice! [Answer]
Loumilindol
20 07,2020
27 is old enough to have a home of your own. In fact, parents should have let you go and do your stuff, be free and all that. Your mom’s being controlling and will continue to do so if you will not leave her roof. If you can earn money on your own already then there’s really nothing holding you back except your mom and seeing that she’s toxi......   reply
20 07,2020
I need advice! [Answer]
quenchmydaddyissues 20 07,2020
hiii, ure old enough to have your own privacy and place. If u have enough savings try and get your own place (but please think about this carefully) coz u will have to do everything by yourself. Anyways im still a student but im renting a small house before(just need to get home bcs of pandemic). It's hard at first but honestly everything felt so f......   1 reply
20 07,2020
I need advice! [Answer]
korei 20 07,2020
You can! It’s the same thing as cutting off toxic friends; you can do that to your family as well. Though it may be slightly hard at first, you get used to not having them by your side. I’d say it’s best to change phone numbers, move into a quiet neighborhood or just one that seems alright and far away from them, and completely ghost them. St......   reply
20 07,2020
I am literally 13 so I don't know if this'll help, but here we go I guess. First of all, it really doesn't make sense that that keep trying to arrange your life because you're an adult, you have the right to do whatever the heck you want and have had it for a long time. Also the fact that at 27 years old, your mother is still comparing you to other......   3 reply
20 07,2020
I need advice! [Answer]
Freja 20 07,2020
Do it! Get your own place! You're old enough and you have a job! If you want to you can still help your mom with stuff from time to time. You don't need to live with her to do that. But also you're not a servant so don't let anyone guilt you into doing something you don't want to. It's YOUR life, not anyone elses. I also think you should think of......   reply
20 07,2020
I need advice! [Question]
da3rakun
20 07,2020
Hi guys! I'm 27 y/o single female currently living with my mother. All my other siblings are either married or live abroad.
My problem is I want my own space. Our house has three rooms, one is rented to my mom's acquaintance, one is the room I shared with my mother and the last one was clothes and miscellaneous space/storage.
I just don't understand why my mother would rent the other room to someone else when she can just let me use it. I asked her, and she said she hates when I locked myself in a room.
That's just one issues. I can still tolerate that.
The thing is since I'm single (and maybe young to my family) they keep wanting to arrange my life and change my behaviour and do things according to their wishes.
I'm sick of that.
Everytime I do things how I like, it could be anything, they will question and provoke me. I'm lazy (they said and I agree ) and basically don't do anything around the house unless I want it. I go to work 9-6 and I got so tired so on weekends I don't even go out and just sleep it off. My mother, she always compared me to someone else's daughter. Not good enough, so lazy, not pretty, everything gets compared. Not that I care, I mean, I lived my teenage years trying to be that filial daughter but I get so heartbroken when she doesn't recognise my efforts.
So I'm done with that. I know I'm not a good daughter to her. But at this point, I hate how she expect me to just be obedient like a dog.
I'm tired of this. I want to be left alone.
Everytime we have a fight, my mother will curse at me and chased me out of the house. I'm so fed up with this but I can't even cry.
So last week when we fought again, I decided I want to move away from her. I'm currently looking for a room to rent.
I know my family, they will try to guilt trip me, saying things like I'm arrogant, unfilial, stubborn and stuff.
All this while I lived my whole life hating myself, because from I was young they have always said that not only I'm ugly but I'm also have unlikeable personality. Who will ever like me?
It took me many years to be strong from that kind of toxic manipulation. In my religion and culture, single kids should care of their parents, this is the time we should repay them. But I'm not happy, I want to get away from them. Can I? How I do be strong and not fall in the same cycle again?
20 07,2020
boop 20 07,2020
lmao i accidentally deleted my answer but it was Seno from Kakkou no yume.   1 reply
20 07,2020
i don't hate anything i just wish it was a little bit different   1 reply
20 07,2020
I want to be in love [Experience]
Diarheia
20 07,2020
I think it's always pushed that you have to date when you're young, that's the norm. I've only ever been on one date, it was my freshman year of university, and since then I've not had any others. Sometimes I get really scared. I wonder if 21 years is too long to be single, if it means that something is strange about me, if it means I'm undesirable......   1 reply
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