A Discussion About Love

lmao if ur really taking romance tips from BL manga u need help because yaoi relationships are 90% toxic and dysfunctional

why dont u just try and get to know the guy better and see how things develop

this is my first time having a crush idk how to know the guy better :I
and also theyre a couple years older so if i try to get too close they might think i'm kinda annoying
and ofc im probably never gonna tell them i like them ╮(￣▽￣)╭


im completely inexperienced in this field and yaoi is the only thing i have to go off of ;-;
and i cant exactly ask help from my friends since among them I'm known as ' the one who has no interest in guys' and i dont wanna lose that title lol

christ this site makes me feel old

how old are u and how old is the guy? why not tell him u like him?

speaking as a guy who has dated a lot of guys and girls... ppl usually prefer if u're straightforward and honest. why do u want ppl to think u have no interest in guys? dont try to be someone u're not.

don't know if Kanye West romance advices are better (≧∀≦)
btw I had no idea we had such a famous person among us ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶

tehee
uhm
lets just say im not old enough to be browsing this site ╮(￣▽￣)╭
annnndddd i cant tell him cuz im an introverted unsociable person who doesnt know how to talk to people and i'd probably die from embarrassment if i told him ╮(￣▽￣)╭

so among my female friends they talk about whos cute n whos not and makeup and clothes and a bunch of girly crap but ive never joined in or anything and i didnt understand much of it so everyone just pins me as the type of person who would never get a crush or anything :I
and if i happened to tell one of them
theyd probably tell everyone else i know
and so many people would know and be talking about it
and i cant take that ;-;

also my friends might think im weird or smth :P since it's not like me to have a crush on someone




how thefck am i supposed to tell soemone i like them??

Don't use any manga for your love reference. They are fiction. And as kanye said : dysfunctional. Even shoujo won't give you good example. Just because we overly conscious or having wet dream about someone that define us to like them. Hahaha. Nope nope.
Wet dream are just normal it doesn't have any relation with your crush. And about conscious about someone. We do that a lot in our life. We conscious if we dress normally or do good job. Usually because we want to be acknowledge like : in your job, your school. Etc. Don't take it too seriously.
There's no symptoms that can define "like like". Just go with it if your head saying you love someone

oh.... ur one of those "not like other girls" girls. but i was also a hipster when i was 12 so i sympathize

why are u friends with ppl who would babble if u told them ur secrets? it doesnt even sound like u like them very much since u sound judgmental about their interest in clothes, makeup and whatnot.

asking ppl out is easy as long as u arent totally crushed by rejection. just... tell them u like them lmao. or make up some dumb excuse to hang out, thats a good starting point.

rude tbh

Yeah, I already been in your place, it's kinda hard sometimes to figure out if you are really in love with this person or if you just love him as a friend.
I will say what worked for me. Do you wanna kiss him? Do you feel attraction for him? Or you just think it'll be great to date him? Because feel attraction is a huge part of relationship.
Maybe you just think of him as a great friend. But if you are sure you like him as a boyfriend, say to him "I really like you". You'll probably get nervous, but trust me, if he likes you too, it will totally worth.

I remember how that was. I had an unrequited love for one guy for 7 yrs. From age 11 to 18 when he got married. He was older than i was also and i never said a word. I knew it was love because he made out with 2 of my sisters and i didn't even care i still couldn't stop thinking about him, watching him when i got the chance (our families were friends) it was a sad sad situation. I finally stopped hoping when he got married. My point is, I'm happily married with 4 kids but i still dream about him and then end up thinking about him. Maybe that wouldn't happen if i confessed and got rejected properly... just sayin. ╮(￣▽￣)╭

you remind me a bit of myself when i was younger. it was too embarrassing for me to tell even my friends about somebody my crush. especially since i was also girl "that wasn't interested in boys" (well it took me a long time to really become interested xD), so i always thought that they would make a fuss about it (and once i said one older guy was handsome and they did make a fuss about it XD).
if you are wondering whether you have a crush on him or not - you probably do, it doesn't have to be love or something deep. if you don't feel the need to be in a relationship with him or get closer to him than you are now, don't confess, wait and see how your feelings develop. my crushes almost never lasted long

rule number 1: DON'T use yaoi as reference. (⊙…⊙ ) they are not real and usually an overreaction for creation's sake.

it is a good choice to ask in the front boards instead. and that title LOL, you don't have to keep just for appearance's sake. eventually you have to talk to them about it sooner or later. it's best to discuss it face to face ^_^

also, who says that an introvert cannot confess? you can. you can express it through your action and try to befriend the guy. if you cannot befriend the guy, start with greeting him and do little talk with him every now and then.

the fact that you are worrying about whether you like him or not is a clue that you are starting to have feelings for him. of course everything could start as a crush but as you go on, it could convert into love as you get to know him better.

also, for now, don't stress over confessing. try to talk to him a little and see if you can be in good terms. there is a good timing for confessing.

Oh man using yaoi as a reference is absolutely no different than using a bodice ripper romance novel as a reference :D Lol or a shoujo.
I'd say get a little closer, if you aren't sure yet then give it time until you ARE sure...it sucks to go out with someone when you aren't sure, and then find out later you're completely not into it. Been there, done that. Couple times.
Plus he might like that you're shy and introverted because a lot of guys do.

At your age (I'm guessing early middle school?), friends are indispensable when it comes to things like crushes so you definitely want to talk to them about it. Get over the whole "not interested in guys" persona you feel like you have to adopt and just be honest with your friends about it. I know saying this is asking a lot of you since you've crafted the aloof personality (trust me I've been there and it's hard to break out of it), but you absolutely need to both for your personal growth and the deepening of your friendships. You're young enough that you shouldn't feel forced to be a certain way, so feel free to shake things up a bit. Your friends may be a bit surprised, but I doubt it would be a huge deal.

It's nice to have someone who knows you to listen to you and observe your interactions to help you figure out how you actually feel if you're still confused. Not to mention, they can help you by setting up situations where you and the guy in question get to know each other better. And, even if nothing comes of it, these situations are always great bonding moments with your friends. Coming out and admitting that you're just like everyone else, even though the Chuunibyou in all of us wants to deny that fact, will bring you guys closer together. Good luck!

P.S. Please don't take any advice from yaoi. Try not to take advice from manga in general, but especially not yaoi. Good luck!

Tehee I'm actually early highschool ╮(￣▽￣)╭
Yes I know I started getting crushes pretty late :P
Thanks for your help! I'm considering telling one of my friends but aGh I cAnT but i sprobably should so I think I'm gonna try tomorrow

welp anyways the person I'm crushing on is a senior in highschool and he's leaving for uni in a couple months and oh god why ;-;

welp I've been wondering if im crushing on him for over 5 months now, maybe 6 :I
he's leaving for uni in a couple months so i dont rly have the time to figure things out ╮(￣▽￣)╭
why do i even try its not like we can spend that much time together ╮(￣▽￣)╭

;-;

we're both pretty quiet people so there're a lot of awkward moments where we're sitting in silence
I think he thinks im weird .-.
uhm
he's leaving for uni in a couple months and i'd like to spend the time with him as much as possible
but like if i confess
and get rejected
maybe he'd start to avoid me
;-;
(on the positive side maybe we'd start dating and i'd get to spend even more time with him but i doubt thats gonna happen)
uhm


what is a "good timing" to confess? xD

im sorry i have a habit of judging everyone >_< or maybe the way i describe it just seem judgemental >_< idk

well they might not babble if i specifically told them not to
so
ima tell one of em tomorrow morning
:I

and this is my first crush so i'f probably get totally crushed by rejection :I





(my thoughts are all over the place right now sry if you cant understand me)
(oh right shark week is coming maybe thats why)
(sry u didnt need to know that lol)

idk about kissing n such since ive never kissed anyone before....
i just feel really
really
really happy whenever I get to see him

and at some point he said I'm like his little sister so i dont think he likes me the way i like him :I

A piece of additional information that may be helpful:

HES LEAVING FOR UNI IN TWO MONTHS IM CRYING T_T

welp
im probably just gonna wait it out n not tell him
maybe ask him for contact info so we can communicate later
idk
;-;