I agree I don't find TJ a red flag. At least he knows what he wants and acts to get it. Like literally a house. Nearly persuaded Ian to get back in ch 32. He is a man brruuhh. As for the label I feel it is risky for Ian in this kind of profession.
I think he is a red flag though?? He literally said he used Ian’s guilt to keep him by his side and prevented him from leaving the gang, causing Ian to feel guilt and always come back to him.
But I agree that he knows what he wants and acts to get it, even to protect Ian. I hope they end up together.
And I think the more toxic/red flag is Ian out of all
Yeah actually I meant comparatively to Ian. I agree both had developed a toxic relationship. The guilt part was it just for the accident of TJ's parents??? And it's not just guilt somewhere or the other Ian loved/loves TJ, as there are chapters that tend to portray it, like the stargazing ch and the hospital scene chapter where Ian broke his leg. I mean there, he knew TJ was behind all of that, TJ came to confess (didn't find this red in TJ) but Ian stopped him with a kiss???! Moreover, Ian wants a labeled relationship but logically it's just important to Ian's security only, that this remains unlabelled and a secret.
Maybe Ian knows what he wants, Idk maybe. That's why this recent chap occurred!!!?? But comparatively, to anyone, I find TJ to have a strong personality and confidence to act upon what he wants.
Moreover, I agree with you regarding Jo. In reality, any sane person will drift away from Ian after knowing he is involved in a gang. But it's a story. I just hope Jo doesn't sweep away Ian from TJ. :'")
I meant I agree with OG post/comment regarding Jo. :''D
Yeah but even so he still played with Ian’s guilty feelings towards TJ. He knew Ian was feeling guilty and took advantage of that. But other than that, he’s not bad. Sometimes people who are stuck with trauma and guilt can’t easily let go of the codependent relationship they’ve built up, so yeah some people will know that other person did something to them and using their feelings and still stay with them.
I wonder when the turning point will be. I’m not seeing much progress between Ian and TJ, they’ve had nearly two decades to help themselves. So I wonder what will help them get out of this ugly situation?
Yes, sure TJ has flaws. I agree with you about getting stuck with a trauma.
For the turning point in the relationship, idk can't expect anything. For all, it is in the author's hands to show their kindness to us poor readers. But I am sure Jo is the lever for that turning point. But, we can't say that the turning point will improve their relationship or make it more uglier. :')
One more thing, TJ was the mastermind behind the huge amount of protection money leveraged to Ian in his prisoner phase. So yeah just to restrain Ian from leaving, he took measures that show his red side too. Oh dear lord, this bl is a tough read.
Jo is slightly red flag. Because he think he's inlive with Ian but I think its just physical.
Ian is a neon red flag that likes to fuck around, have unstable emotions, don't do any good decision in life and just made jo's life miserable.
While, TJ knows his feelings but doesn't want LABEL and still fucks around with IAN.the hell with these two they can fuck around and let Jo be.