Being in love with someone does not require you to want to have sex or anything else sexual with/to them. Personally, if I were to ever fall in love *cough*withsomeonereal*cough*, I would much rather hold hands and cuddle. Kissing would be fine, but little pecks, rather than deep and passionate kisses. It's possible that you're asexual, but heteroromantic/biromantic/homoromantic/panromantic, or whatever.
I have veen in love with someone for 5 years, one sided. What i felt was definitely happy whenever i could see his face, and i cried, won't even eat for weeks when i found out that he got himself a new girlfriend, desperately trying to move on but i can't, and i've been wondering "why do i love him so much? Even though his bad side is really terrible, but i don't mind about it"
Loving someone is when you care about a certain someone and you can accept that person whatever he/she is, and you have absolutely no reason why you can't stop thinking about that person and why you love that person so much. It's almost like an unconditional love, quite problematic sometimes, cause you might lose yourself
Thanks! I already thought of possibly being asexual, but I'm not sure. I MAY be in love with my friend, but I don't feel sexual about her and she is a girl and Ian too. So I probably won't confess to her anyway. Sorry if I'm rambling but she always says to me that she likes me. It's difficult explaining that in English but in German it's not like a
"Ich mag dich. ", which translates exactly to " I like you.", because she says "Ich habe dich lieb.", which is more intimidate.
In English that would be "I'm fond of you." or "I love you.", in a more friendly way. I always say that to my mother and I never got the "Ich habe dich lieb" from anyone other than her and my friend.
The first time my friend said that I was like "Wot."
And she was honestly upset because I didn't say it back.
At that time I knew her for like, half a year, so it was a very intimidate for me and I was SO FLUSTERED. Dear god.
And I bet she would be weirder out if I confessed to her.
I think almost the whole day about her.
But I'm too freaking shy to just hug her. Only when we say goodbye to each other but then she initiates he hug. Sorry, another ramble right ahead! She has such gorgeous long hair. And she always makes me laugh and I do too. But she has a best friend. And it is not me. And I always get so jealous because of her. And my friend considers her closer to her, than me. That is so frustrating.
My friend even told me that she is her best friend and Iam not as good as her. At least her best friend is in another class so I can have her for myself more. Of course, in the afternoon they could meet as often as they wanted but I get to do group work and stuff with her.
IM SORRY FOR RANTING, JUST NEEDED TO TELL MY WHOLE LIFE THE INTERNET
I've never been in love, so I wouldn't know ╥﹏╥
Man, I just wrote my whole life in here and I think it didn't post it.
Oh well, there goes my life
Oh! It did post it! Haha I'm so dumb sometimes...
I feel you :(
Thanks for replying! (●'◡'●)ノ
This sounds so cliche but when it's real love you just know. It's little things that are different with this one person. It's way different than infatuation or puppy love. And different than lust. Lust is a part of it, and for me, I'm a person who doesn't feel that unless I different have a deep connection with the person...so for me it is another clue that it's real. It's also another lot less tense and more relaxed than infatuation or a crush
Oh yeah i read it about psychological things, that if you like someone for more than 4 months, it's called being in love. It's not a casual crush/simple like anymore
do you feel jealousy when she talks to you about someone she likes or is attracted?
in my opinion you are in love with her you, according to what you say you are attracted to her and you think about her all the time.
Your story makes me think of the story of my best friend she also fell in love with her friend
but try to see if there are any sign she could fell in love with you try to know what she likes (boys/girls) her tastes, if you are shy like me this will be diffiult bur try to put every chances on your side
Gosh, I already feel jealous when she talks to a classmate, or friends of hers that I don't know.
I guess that could be because I get jealous so easily, but with her I feel jealous when she like, laughs at another person's joke or is excited to meet someone, or something like that.
I think she'd rather like boys, but she didn't say what she was interested in. Before I realized the way I think about her, I said that I wouldn't be interested in love yet, because I thought I'm too young for these things. My other friend, let's just call her Susie, already had like 6 boyfriends and 1 girlfriend. I know that I can tell her family-things and that she won't judge me if I liked a girl.
She herself is acting a lot more intimidate with her friend, let's call her Lea so things won't get complicated, because she shares food with her, they often spend a night at each others houses, they even held hands! But when I asked her if she had there something important to tell me, Susie told me in a pretty serious voice that it's nothing. I'm often jealous of their relationship, because I won't do these things to my friend, unless they're starting with it.
And sometimes in class, I sit directly next to her, I want to hold her hands so badly.
And sometimes I begin to look at her, then she looks back and we just look at each other a while.
SORRY FOR RANTING, IT'S OVER NOW!
And thanks for your reply, I didn't think I'd get that much help on a manga site (▰˘◡˘▰)
And I'm really afraid to think that she someday would be in love with someone else,
just wanted to add that
okay what i can advise you is to be less shy (i know it's difficult) but she sees you as friend right now and she won't reject you if you open up
if you can, invite her to your house for a sleepover, try to go have a drink together, stuff like that, so that you can create bonds outside school
Your problem from what i have read is, your link is school so try to deepen your friendship by doing others stuff it could be anything
Is it alright if I tell you a bit more? You don't have to read it, but I'd be happy if you do.
So today I went to school again and she told me about when we are going to move in a house with me and her best friend. I was like "Oh my gosh!", cuz she only mentioned her best friend once, then she talked about rooms in the house and stuff. I was super happy, even when I didn't know if we would move together somewhere. And in physics we looked at each other again, but like, for a while and my heart fricken skipped a beat. And we always are like, mocking each other an stuff, but we don't really mean it. So she was today much nicer to me and smiled and laughed a lot. And she said "Ich habe dich lieb" again. And I was grinning like an idiot. Maybe she was nicer because I'm on my period and I told her that my stomach hurted. I didn't really mind the pain when she is there. And I'm not often because of school in a bad mood anymore, because she's there. She also said that she'd like to visit me again. And I was grinning again. I think I'll ask her to visit me on Saturday. Then I could try to deepen our friendship! But I don't know how... I could probably tell her some things I don't tell anyone else, because I think she won't judge me for it. I also know that she isn't homophobic or something. And she's always pretty honest but a bit blunt. But I like it when I can be sure that she won't lie to me. I somehow feel like she likes me at least a bit more now. I don't know why, but she's been much more kind since yesterday.
I'm pretty happy about that! Also, thank you for your replies! I really appreciate your help!! (●'◡'●)ノ
Annnd we both like almost the same things. We both like drawing and the same food and stuff.
When I'm with her I don't feel so awkward. But when I speak to classmates I just don't know what to speak about, but with her I can speak about almost everything. I feel really comfortable around her and even though I don't know her since two years, I think I never felt such a strong connection to someone.
This is not really a manga related question, but whatever.
Alright, there I go: How does being in love with someone feel like?
Do you feel like doing something sexual to her or him or do you just like holding hands or hugging? I really want to know, because I feel more like holding hands, hugging or cuddling. Is it then still love or just liking a friend like a best friend? I guess kissing wouldn't be disgusting to me or something but sexual things would be. Sorry for the long text, but I really needed getting that out of my mind.