I think they create these dynamics knowingly. Like they WANT the pedophilic grooming type relationship to be used because why else would a person devote their entire live on someone? He thinks shes a god he idolizes her to a point where she cant make any mistakes and its all his fault. He's obsessed with her, doesn't have a personality other than trying to appeal to her, cant/doesn't want to create relationships with others. Oh and also lets not forget she knows the effect she has on him but uses that instead of ending their predatory relationship. And he doesn't remember his past life before he goes to war so all of these still count. Literally everything he does is a trauma response and shes also one of the reasons why hes so fucked up. I especially hate it when they do all this shit and at the end we get chapters about their wholesome family life. It genuinely feels like an epstein documentary.

yeah— NO, this is still leaning towards PEDOPHILIA and you can argue over technicalities all you want but the fact that author used a child (or a child-like figure) makes me feel uncomfy
i've read my fair share of dark/toxic/angsty stories but why involve children? for such heavy themes, author could have at least made them meet at a point where ML is at least legal age if there's an age-gap so it doesn't lowkey looks like grooming